Post # 1
Ok, so the invites to my parents and Fi’s parents, do we still write out their names formally, or is Mom and Dad Lastname ok..?? It’s to send my parents an invite to the wedding they’re paying for as Mr. and Mrs. My Parents rather than Mom and Dad. Do they get an invite ?
Also, my brother and his gf don’t live together, but have been together over 6 years so of course she is coming with him to the wedding. Do I send her a separate invite, or just put her name under my brother’s name on his invite envelope??
I am not using inner envelopes.
Post # 3
IMO the invites to your parents are written out formally, as to your brother, you can say Mr ____ (your brother) and Ms (his gf) on the same invite
Post # 4
I agree, I would write out the names formally and on your brothers invite put
Mr. Brother and Ms. Girlfriend under his name and send it to his address.
Post # 5
I haven’t sent my invites yet, but I send the save-the-dates to "Papa and Mom Lastname." My mom thought it was cute. I might go formal on the wedding invite, though.
I’d send a separate invite to your brother’s girlfriend. Let’s her know you want her there specifically not just because she’s his gf. Also, in my experience, boys are bad about sharing details with girlfriends. She might like to have all the info directly sent to her.
Post # 6
I don’t really think it matters too much. I was just planning on writing out their names (I don’t think I am doing any form of Mr. or Mrs. – just names). No "Mom and Dad" or anything.
Post # 7
It depends on your parents really and how they would react to such an invite and you can only be the best gauge for that.
It is different in my situation all together because my parents are really not happy with my marriage still. However, I think that even if they were happy, it would have been weird to invite my own parents. So I got around that by drafting up a formal invite with their first and last names on the outer envelope. I had ribbon bands where I put the names of those invited inside – that’s where I put Papa, Mummy, sister’s name, brother’s name. I presented it to them as "here’s a sample invitation I was working on, do you like it?" This way they got the invitation and didn’t get insulted by being invited to their own daughter’s wedding.
Post # 8
I am unsure about the parents.. I plan to do Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s last name on the outer envelopes and Mom and Dad on the inner envelopes.
My understanding with the live-in gf/bf situation is they each get their own line and it goes alphabetically:
123 Main Street
We have a few of those situations and that is how we are handling it.
Post # 9
We sent invites to our moms and dads. We needed them to RSVP for their meal choices, and we figured they might want to keep the formal invitation in scrapbooks or frames or something. But since we only had one envelope, we just put "mom and dad" on the outside and left it at that. For your brother and his girlfriend, I would send it to whomever is the "planner" in the relationship. I actually sent an invite for my sister and her Fi (they don’t live together) to him because he is the one who usually makes social plans for both of them.
P.S. I don’t think my ways are the proper etiquette. 🙂
Post # 10
You can put mom and dad, but it’s nice to get an envelope with your name written out all pretty.