(Closed) Need help with invitation wording!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hmm, I can’t think of a good way to word your first question. But for the second one, maybe something like, “Please join us to celebrate at a ____ reception.” In the blank you can describe your reception — ‘cocktail’ or ‘dinner’ or ‘hors d’oeuvors.’ Hope that helps a bit!

Post # 5
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1696 posts
Bumble bee

@peachbaby4008:  It is never correct to invite guests to only part of an event. It is never polite to alert friends to the existence of an event that they are not invited to. So, you need to treat these as two separate events. You are allowed to send the second invitation in the same envelope as the first invitation, and to put the majority of the information on just one of the two invitations. Obviously, this means that the primary invitation is the one that goes to the larger number of guests.

I wouldn’t call the Dinner a “reception dinner” or “dinner reception”, because technically a dinner and a reception are two different kinds of party. A “reception” is a stand-up meet-and-mingle type party where light refreshments are served. However, you could call it a Wedding Dinner (or more traditionally a “Wedding Breakfast” although that is likely to confuse less informed guests into thinking that you are serving bacon and eggs with pancakes). I would word it like this:

Miss Peach Baby
requests the pleasure of the company of
Mr and Mrs Jones
to her Wedding Dinner

with Mr Future Husband
on Saturday the twenty-ninth of September
at half past seven o’clock
Main Street Legion Hall

R.s.v.p.
your address

You would send a separate invitation to Mr and Mrs Jones’ three children Amy, Bradley and Carla like this:

Miss Peach Baby
requests the pleasure of the company of
Miss Jones, Master Bradley, Miss Carla
to her Wedding Dinner

with Mr Future Husband
on Saturday the twenty-ninth of September
at half past seven o’clock
Main Street Legion Hall

R.s.v.p.
your address


Amy, Brad and Carla will be so excited that you are treating them in such an independent grown-up way. But the real reason you are doing this is so that you can slip separately into their parents’ card, a little card that reads

Miss Peach Baby and Mr Future Husband
Wedding Ceremony
three o’clock at the Civic Art Gallery

Adults Only

I don’t really like the “Adults Only” thing, but since you are doing something unusual, and since ceremony-only invitations don’t require a reply so you don’t have the opportunity to gently correct anyone who misses the subtleties of all this and mistakenly thinks their children are invited, you had better be overt even if it is a little gauche.

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