Post # 1
I am totally lost on my wedding invites and need some help.
My parents are paying for 70% of the wedding, me and my fiance are paying for the rest and his father has offered to pay for our photographer. I know that traditionally you are supposed to only list the hosting parents names, but I don’t feel comfortable leaving his parents off the invite.
I don’t like the super traditional, formal invite wording (brides parents request your presence at the wedding of their daughter *bride* to *groom* son of grooms parents”. I prefer the more casual “bride and groom along with their parents *brides parents names* and *grooms parents names* request your presence on their wedding day”. However, my fiance’s parents are divorced so I don’t know how to word that.
If an example is:
Claire Peterson & Nathan Matthews
Along with their parents
Mr. & Mrs. John Peterson and Mr. & Mrs. Luke Matthews
Request your presence on their wedding day”
…how would you word that with divorced parents? Any ideas?
Any suggestions would be appreciated!
Post # 2
To answer your question, I think the wording could be something like:
Bride & Groom
Together with their parents
Mr. and Mrs. Father Bride
Mr. and Mrs. Father Groom
and Mr. and Mrs. Mother Groom
(ie, separating each family by line)
Having said that, I can understand why you like one style over the other, but–just to put this out there–remember that an invitation is not to commemorate relationships; it’s to give very perfunctory factual information, so the people hosting (in this case, really, your parents) are listed up front so that guests know who they should refer to for questions, gift information, etc. as well as who to thank for the invitation and the event. The reason why they don’t recommend putting the couples’ names as the inviting party is that unless you really are the ones paying for the wedding, it sounds strange for you to invite others to your own party to celebrate…you. So the idea of putting
Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s Parents
Request the honor of your presence (it’s usually “honor of your presence” if you are having a ceremony in a house of God of some sort and the “pleasure of your company” if not)
at the wedding of their daughter
Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s Parents (“son of…” is traditional for Jewish weddings, but you see it a lot for non-Jews too).
Again, word it however you want, but I was just explaining why names are usually listed as they are. But yeah–divorced parents are usually listed on separate lines.
Post # 3
Can you just say “Together with their parents, Sam and Diane…”? It’s slightly vague but still inclusive, and then you don’t need to go into the details of who is divorced and who is not.
Post # 4
Together with their families, maybe?