Post # 1
Because we can’t afford the ridiculous charge for a Saturday JP wedding (which takes all of five minutes but they want $300), we’ve decided to go ahead and get married on 12.10.10, with our reception on 12.11.10. Since our families are traveling in on 12.11, we’ve also decided to have my matron of honor (a close mutual friend) and my aunt (who loves FH) with us as our two witnesses on our actual wedding date. It will be a quick courthouse ceremony in the late afternoon.
Now, I’m wondering if I should just buy a classy retro-style outfit (I’m thinking a silk blouse, a nice pencil skirt, and some awesome heels) to wear to our ceremony and then save my green dress for the reception on 12.11, or if I should wear the green dress to both. I like the idea of having a simpler outfit (because the green dress is off-the-shoulder and has a crinoline) for the simple ceremony and really getting dolled up for the reception, when both our immediate families will be with us. I’m having my hair and makeup done that Saturday, too.
I want to add, also, that I’ll be wearing the green dress when we host a big party for his whole family, my family, and our friends on 11.11.11, so it’s not like I wouldn’t get my money’s worth from it! 🙂
Second part of question:
Since we’re only inviting our families to celebrate with us the day after the ceremony (fancy dinner on us and a pay-your-own-way after party), how would I word the invitations?
I’m thinking something like “Statutory Grape and Mr. Grape request the pleasure of your company in celebrating their marriage on Saturday, December 11, 2010 at ____.” My only problem with that is, it sounds like we’re inviting them to a ceremony when we’re not. But we’re going to ask everyone to meet at my grandmother’s house so she can meet my new family and also see me in my dress.
What would be the best way to word it? Should we say something like, “Please join us for a meeting of the two families at ____, followed by a reception dinner at ___”?
Post # 4
you could word it somewhere along the lines of ‘_____ and _____ request the pleasure of your company as they exchange vows….” That way, it doesn’t sound like you are inviting them to a ‘ceremony’ 🙂 and yet they still are aware that ya’ll are getting married. good luck and God bless ya’ll :0)
Post # 5
@TaterTot26: We’ll have already done our vows the night before, though, hence the problem. Leave it to me to make things complicated! =P
Post # 6
My other reason for not wanting to wear the green one on the ceremony day is because it won’t have the same “wow” impact on FH the day of our reception if he’s already seen it. If I get a new outfit, I can wow him twice. 😉
Post # 7
what about “to celebrate their marriage” or “in the celebration of their marriage”? It sounds more like it’s alrady done to me.
Post # 8
I went to a wedding two years ago where they got married at the JoP the night before, and had the reception the next day. I can’t remember exactly how it was worded, but it was pretty clear what we were in for.
I would just say “Mr. and Mrs. so and so request the pleasure of your company at a reception celebrating the marriage of Mr. and Mrs. Statutory Grape.” and then something like “receiving line at 5:00 with dinner to follow”. I’m sure people may ask for clarification, but you or your family can spread the word.
Post # 9
Oh, and I voted for the green dress, because likely there will be someone taking lots of pictures of the ceremony, which is the important part.
Post # 10
@Chillmer: Actually, there will be more photos taken of the reception, which is longer. The ceremony will be roughly five minutes long, haha.
Post # 11
Our reception invitations read like this:
Ms. Pepper and Mr. Pepper would be
Delighted if you Would Join them to Celebrate Their marriage
at a dinner reception with their family and friends.
Cocktails at 5:30
Dinner to be Served at 6:30
RSVP Card enclosed
That way it is clear that there isn’t a ceremony of any kind taking place, but you are celebrating the wedding.