- 8 years ago
OK, so, here is a little back story: My fiancé and I live with his parents. His parents wanted me to move in to their house because I had to move from my apartment and had no where to go. But, nonetheless, they love me here. My fiancé and I started planning our wedding (officially) three months ago.
Here is a list of everything she has an “opinion” on (which is ALWAYS negative): our reception site, liquor package, centerpiece ideas (like every day), sweetheart table, ceremony site, linen color, who the bridal party is (like trying to get rid of MY niece as our flower girl and make it her three grand daughters who are my junior bridesmaids), favors, save the dates (which we already sent out and now she “supposedly” loves), invitation wording, cake topper, tux vest colors, my FH wedding band, our honeymoon location, photographer, how our cake is going to look, my hair, who is walking me down the aisle, the officiant, bouquets, lack of real flowers, our first dance song, the fact we dont want dad/daughter & mom/son dance; I am sure there is tons more but that is all I can think of right now.
Here is some other useful information: they are going to be giving us $2000 to help because they helped my FH older brother with the same amount. My FH’s parents also added 16 people to our guest list who neither of us know, and they will supposedly be paying for them. They did however unexpectedly buy my dress and accessories (which, for the record, I was kidnapped for…she asked her sister to ask me…what the heck am I going to say when my FMIL is starring at me on the phone???). And fyi, the only thing she does like is our singer, our color, how our cake tastes, and I honestly think that is it.
My FH and I feel like we are losing our freaking minds. Everyday there is something new. But every couple weeks we get a “down week” where she doesn’t say much about the wedding, oh but then the next week there is something new. Now she tells her sister that we aren’t including her in anything, so she writes us a letter. I know she (the aunt) is trying to be sweet, we are not mad at her. Anytime we try to show her something we picked, “its not classy”, or “i wouldn’t do that…i don’t want [name] and I to be embarrassed”…”you should include our opinions we are paying for your wedding”.
And the above, isnt everything…we signed our contract with our reception site, which is a tad bit out of our (FH and I) price range of what we wanted to/can pay. His parents said “Oh dont worry about it, we will figure everything out” and then later “No worries, we have it covered for you” – yeah, all $4000+ of it, which now they are only giving half of what they said they would. My FMIL doesnt even want my mom included. And she gets mad anytime my FH and I go see my mom. We see my mom once a month for like 5 hours and we see them EVERY day and spend time with them EVERY week. And to top all of this, his cousin is getting married next year and that has been enough drama to deal with. She is seriously like the bridezilla from hell. She was a BM but my FH uninvited her when she started threatening us.
I am not sure what to do anymore. My FH and I are trying to be thankful for everything they have and will do for us. We really are. There are a few types of brides: the brides who plan everything with their MOH and/or BM, the brides who plan everything with their mom, the brides who plan everything by themselves or the brides who plan everything with their future husband. My FH and I want to plan everything ourselves. Anytime we have shown her things, she never says anything nice, why would we continue to share with her? Which we still do. Her other son got married 10 years ago and they didnt include her in anything. So this should be awesome for her that we include her in some things. Are we being ungrateful or is she just crazy?
SORRY for the long message, I honestly needed to vent.