Post # 1
My FI and I are having our Vietnamese engagement center in two weeks (he’s Vietnamese, I’m not). I need to pick my family representative and explain things to them, but I’m not really sure what exactly he’s supposed to say.
I asked my FMIL, but she just said, oh, he just introduces everyone. I have a feeling that it’s more formal than that though. Is there a specific order that he’s supposed to introduce my family in? Is he supposed to say something at the begininng, like to welcome everyone? I’d like to write up a short script or outline for him, but I’ve been having trouble getting the details.
For those of you who’ve been to this ceremony before, I could use your help! Thanks!
Post # 3
Its not all that formal. It can be VERY nerve wrecking though. Basically you pick anyone (usually your father, or whoever is in charge of your household when you were younger) to represent your family.
Your representative would introduce by oldest to yougest. I.E. Grandfather, grandmother, uncle, self, sister, then your generation, your brother or sister, or you if your the oldest.
Everything goes in generation and usually Males before females. The elderly have the biggest respect in the vietnamese culture.
Hope that helps.
Post # 4
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I agree with PancakesNLeosMom. In some families it is prefered to choose someone other than your dad. So if you choose this route, the represenative is typically someone who is married with a “good” family and who is generally of the same age or older than your dad. Generally, the rep would say the same thing as if your families were really meeting for the first time… Thank you so much for having us here today. We are so fond of Fi and are so happy to be here today. Let me introduce you to …. and from oldest to youngest.
Post # 5
yes… don’t forget to pick from a “good family” as in, married the longest, or never divorced
Post # 6
Your speaker should also introduce everyone by their relation to the bride/groom…the ceremony is meant to introduce your families and from that day on your family members are considered your fiance’s family too and vise versa.
Post # 7
According to my mom, your speaker needs to be in the same age range as his parents. You don’t want a younger person addressing an elder. Most people represent as couples. So my widowed aunt can’t be a representative.