Post # 1
Hi Everyone! Got engaged last December and trying to pick a date for our wedding.
I am super indecisive on everything – just to rant – first it was going to be a crusie wedding, but then we found out nobody could afford to go on the cruise. So next up was a camp wedding in NH, but it was too far for my family (a big 3 hrs) and they expressed that they wouldn’t camp, makes for a fun time. We were going to check out the place anyways, but then the fiance gets an invite to be a groomsmen at his friends wedding…in NH…at a camp…a week after I was planning on having our wedding (I told this couple that if the cruise thing didn’t work out for Aug I wanted to plan for Columbus day weekend, they booked theirs for Oct 19)
Anyways we decided to put all our wedding money into fixing up our backyard and doing an outdoor wedding. We have a guest list of about 50. I am trying to set a budget (just wedding things) for about $2000 – after listening to the fiances ideas it will prob go over this.
Back to the date…I really wanted Columbus Day weekend…I liked the long weekend aspect, but the friend is in our wedding and the fiance is in his, which is planned for the 19th, only a week away from each other. We wanted a fall wedding so the fiance said Oct 5, but I just don’t like the date, it’s only 2 weeks away from the other couple and I’m a teacher so I really wanted to have that extra day off. I was thinking of possibly Aug 24 or Aug 31 (labor day weekend) – but I don’t know if that will be too much for me before the school year, and if it will be too hot.
What do you think? Stuck on Aug 24, Aug 31, Oct 5 or possibly Nov 2 (might be way too cold but we could do the halloween thing) We’re in MA
Post # 3
Im not a fan of the heat…and especially all dressed up in wedding attire. So, I voted for Oct 5th. Sounds like a good middle ground option and far enough from any holidays
Post # 4
I’d probably do October as well due to the heat. Fall is gorgeous for weddings!
Post # 5
Do you think it would be too close to the other couple’s date?
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Personally, I recommend against holiday weekends, many people like to travel at that time, and it’s just easier if you aren’t trying to plan around other hilidays.
I do think November would be too cold for an outdoor thing, so I’d recommend either 8/24 or 10/5. 10/5 is less desirable because it’s so close to a friend’s… So, if it were me, I would choose 8/24 and do an early fall theme.
Post # 7
Long weekends should typically not be considered, all your friends and family likely have traditions for holidays or maybe like to use their long weekends for mini trips. No one but you can pick your date, and I think you at this point have to rule out the columbus weekend. As for the labour day weekend its the last long weekend of the summer, many families do have traditions for spending it at the lake or something. Make sure no one would be upset for a long weekend wedding if you go that route, at only 50 guests i’m sure you would be deeply hurt if anyone missed the wedding.
Post # 8
If you’re a teacher, I would DEFINITELY do summer! You could take some time off, go on a honeymoon, etc… it’s hard to do that during the school year!
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I voted Aug 24.. like pp said a long weekend may interfere with family traditions, and I do think 2 weeks away from your friend’s wedding is a little too short. But as someone else noted, be aware of how hot it will be because if you don’t have something to combat the heat (covered tent, fans, etc.) people may try to hang out in your house or something rather than in your backyard.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Please don’t take away my holiday weekend. A friend of ours planned an entire Memorial Day weekend wedding and although we like them it was disappointing to spend one of my few work holiday weekends at a wedding.
Post # 11
I voted August 24. I think Oct and Nov will be too cold in MA. We live in VT right outside of MA and its already getting pretty chilly at night so an outdoor wedding in Oct and Nov could be bad. Plus it snowed last Oct 31st so just be careful in New England during that time.
August or labor day would be my choice. People don’t like holiday weekends but if you want that they will come. Not my favorite but whats one holiday weekend. We will be attending our friends Memorial Day weekend 2013 and are still excited.