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    torybrian    August 14, 2010   Livermore

    My FI's parents are not coming to the wedding because they don't support our marriage. His grandparents and two uncles should be there, however.

    My aunt and uncle are hosting the wedding at their house, and have paid for a significant part of it. My grandma & grandpa are attending, and my grandpa will be walking me down the aisle. My dad is not invited, and my mom is but she and I are really not that close.

    So, I'm trying to figure out how to acknowledge the people that need to be without offending anyone, and also without making my FI feel bad about his parents not attending. And, if I'm naming my aunt and uncle, shouldn't I also name my FI's uncles? They are gay and recently broke up.

    One last thing, to mix it up even more - my best friend's mom has been like a mother to me, and I'm a lot closer to her than I am my real mom. I'd like to include her name as well, if there's any way to.

    Help!

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Do you really want to have them on the invitations?  You could go the easy route and say 'Together with their familiies'.  If you want more traditional wording, you could have 'Mr. and Mrs. Blue (your aunt and uncle) invite you to the wedding of their neice Jane Doe to Jack Smith, son of Mr. and Mrs. Smith'.

     
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    torybrian    August 14, 2010   Livermore

    This is actually for the wedding programs. We're going to have fans sitting on the chairs at the ceremony. We did use "Together with their families" for the invitations.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Oh I'm sorry!  Zoning out here today.  I don't really know much about program wording, we didn't do programs.  I think I would just have them as the 'hosts' of the wedding and in another part list the family members like usual.

     
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    texasmeredith      

    This is really tricky.  Generally the only names listed in the program are the wedding party, parents of the B&G, and grandparents of the B&G.  

    Lots of times couples write a note in the programs to their guests (thanking everyone for coming, etc).  Perhaps you could specifically thank your aunt and uncle for hosting in that section.

     
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    Schatzie821    August 21, 2010   New Hampshire, US

    In all honesty, you should talk it over with your fiance and find something you are both comfortable with.  In the end, if you don't include certain people or if you include them all, someone is always going to be offended.  Sadly, people usually go the easy route and please the more vocal party. If you feel it is important for someone's name to be on there, I think you should put it on.

     

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