Need help with timing of wedding…keeping guests entertained during break…

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Laur12:  I would just have the gap and leave it up to your guests to entertain themselves. They can go for coffee or a drink, then go to the reception later. Some may even want to go back to their hotels, or go check into their hotel if they are staying overnight.

 

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You’re gonna have to start cocktail hour sooner – people will be restless and want food and drink. Any other “entertainment” will just be irritating.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@julies1949:  See, I think gaps are totally rude. If I went back to the hotel I’d just stay there.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@oneofthesethings:  I don’t think gaps are uncommon. Catholic ceremonies often have gaps of several hours.

If you are having a dinner reception, in order to have no gap, it would mean ceremonies  that start no earlier than about 4:00 or 4:30 pm. We all know that many weddings are held earlier than that. A 2:00 pm wedding then would require a cocktil hour(?) that went from 3:30 to about 6:00, when the reception officially starts. Your guests would all be blitzed.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Laur12:  If you are chartering a bus, you could send them on a tour.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Start cocktail hour early. Feed your guests and give them drinks. There’s no real alternative that doesn’t suck for the guests.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens

We are planning to have a gap, although both the ceremony and reception are at the same location. Our venue is a 33 acre B&B and has lawn games and several wineries that do tastings nearby. We are also planning to have tables out with board games and cards (FI’s family loves card games) and we are going to have platters with sandwiches and other foods, since we will do a late morning ceremony (11 or 11:30) and a dinner reception. Is there a way for you to have lawn games at your reception site earlier? 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hmm, are a lot of people family and friends with each other? Or do a lot of them only know a few people there? DH and I had a fairly long gap too, but everyone enjoyed mingling and catching up with each other. An hour and a half (2:30-4) isn’t an hour, but it isn’t too long for your guests to mingle either.

 

To slow people down you could have your photographer set up somewhere to take pictures of you with the guests just after the ceremony, and have the bus come for them between 2:45 and 3, and then have them start the cocktail hour after that.

Oh sorry, I thought you said that you would have the reception starting at 4!

 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Laur12:  I’ve been to a 2.5 hour cocktail hour. There was no food and only water to drink–It was bad.

I think if you have food and free booze, it’s fine. Or have the bus running from the hotel to the reception and back so guests can choose what they’d like to do!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens

@Laur12:  I hope it works for you! We are super excited – neither FI or I are big center-of-attention people, so we are hoping this will give us a chance to visit and help it feel more like a laid-back party with a wedding . . . 

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