Post # 1
Ok my wedding colors are red, black and white. My mom picked out this absolutly stunning dark blue dress to wear. She also picked out silver shoes. I’m so happy she found something she really likes.
The problem lies with the fact that when i talked to my FMIL I told her what color my mom was wearing so she could pick something appropriate, and she told me, o that’s ok, I was planning on matching the wedding colors.
what the heck does that mean? my girls are wearing red, i’m wearing white, the guys will be in a combo of all 3. I don’t want her showing up in something that clashes, red is a tricky color, you can’t just go and get any red you want.
I talked to FI and he agreed, we let it go for now, but i’m gonna have to bring it up again, I just don’t know how.
Post # 3
Maybe you can go shopping with her and help steer her in a different direction? Or show her pictures of dresses you think she would look stunning in-flattery is your friend!
Post # 4
Good idea, tessabella76! I second that! Or could you mention that you want her to stand out from the bridesmaids???
Post # 5
I would suggest going shopping with her too! It’d be a fun "bonding" experience and that way you can veto/give the seal of approval on what something you like!
Post # 6
What do you mean clashing? Does it matter what color she wears as long as the dress is pretty and appropriate?
Post # 7
Are you worried about your FMIL’s taste? Maybe she’ll wear something that has some red in it. She’s not going to be in most of the pics with your BM’s – so I’m sure it will be fine.
Post # 8
I think if you give her some ideas from magazine or website pictures that you saw and like for her. You might want to show her her wedding pictures that have mothers in the picture. Point out that the mother doesn’t usually match and usually has something that coordinates but isn’t the exact color. Remind her that she wants to stand out. Also, if you have a future sister-in-law, she might be able to help you convince your FMIL more easily. Lastly, if you can’t beat ’em, join ’em–give her a color swatch of the color the girls are wearing so that at least her red will coordinate/match your BM’s dresses.