Need help…DH thinks I talk too much!!!

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
844 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I don’t have much advice for you, but here -Hugs-

I’ve always had the same kind of problem, with talking too much. My entire family is pretty much like your ex, shooting angry glares at me and elbowing me in the ribs when I’ve gone too far. Luckily, FI loves that I talk. Despite him appearing rather quiet, we actually curl up and natter through films, spend hours just talking. I guess what i’m trying to say is that your FI should be the one person you DON’T need to hold back with. He shouldn’t be so mean to you – and I think it’s time you told him everything. Including how your ex treated you (which is totally NOT okay by anyone’s books). I’m sure that once he knows how you really feel, he’ll be more understanding.

Post # 4
3790 posts
Honey bee

Why does your DH have a problem with you talking too much?! Surely he knew what he was getting himself in for when he proposed to you? As for referencing his ex-gf and comparing the two of you, I know you said he has let up on this, but he should have never done this in the first place. Yes, maybe you do talk a lot but it sounds like it is in context. Getting along great with the other female on date night, sounds just like two women gossping and getting to know each other. That’s what ladies do! Sounds like she had plenty to say too!

You should be allowed to act yourself around your husband and friends and shouldn’t have to change. They should love you for who you are, even if you do chat a bit. You don’t want your friends thinking there is a problem because you aren’t talking. If it were me, I would tell hubby to stay at home while I go out and talk to my friends and have fun if I embarassed him so much!

Post # 5
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am a very introverted person, and conversations cause me to have anxiety. I LOVE super-talkative people because it takes so much pressure off of me.

It’s good to be polite and pause once in a while to make sure people are able to add things to the conversation, and it’s good to censor yourself a bit so you aren’t saying things that might embarass others you don’t know very well – like sexual stories or body function stories or very controversial views on things. I have no idea what is wrong with a story about your parents’ dog dying.

DH bringing up his ex-GF to teach you people skills is a much bigger faux-pas than your constant talking. Surely he was aware of your talkativeness when he married you!



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