(Closed) Need honest opinions!~

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t think this is a big deal at all. I’m sure people in their lives know they are divorced. Just be glad that you don’t have to deal with one of the psycho ex’s that some people post about.

Post # 4
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Spesh2012:  I understand why it bothers you but I’m sure that she just doesn’t think about it. She probably thinks something along the lines of “why would I type out the name twice when we have the same name?” I know I wouldn’t do it that way if (God forbid) FI and I ever got divorced and shared the same name but some people aren’t as sensitive to etiquette as I am either so I think it’s probably just that. 

Post # 5
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You’re reading way to much into it. No sense writing Smith twice when you only need to write it once!That, and everyone knows… they are not a couple…

Having a kid means you are FOREVER binded to that person, and that union shall be enough to be able to state “Jack and Jill Smith.” 

 

Post # 7
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2320 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This would bother me, not going to lie.  But it is a small thing and there really is so much worse that she could do. Have you talked to your FI about it? Once you get married it might need to addressed?

Post # 8
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1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@vmec: Yes they will be bound forever, but no, technically they are not “Jack and Jill Smith” at all anymore.  The “and” denotes a social unit, and they are not.  They are Mr. Jack Smith and Ms. Jill Smith.  When the OP and Jack get married, they will be Spesh and Jack Smith.

So yeah, OP, she shouldn’t be doing that, but it’s not something to worry about.  It was probably just easier to do that on the evite. Is it annoying?  Yes

Post # 11
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1101 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Honestly, this would bother me. And if you know the parents are hosting bc who else would, his 8 year old friend, why put that? She should just put the party details, noone really cares who is hosting lol  Or put both of their first names for RSVP’s and thats that. This is just my opnion though.

Post # 12
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2320 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Spesh2012:  That is really odd though, the more I think it about the weirder it is. After 4 years?

Post # 15
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452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Weird? Yes.  Unacceptable? No.  Honestly, like others mentioned, I’m sure it’s just because it’s easier.  As for the caller ID, she may not even realize it still says this. 

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