Post # 1
I am the bride, but my Maid/Matron of Honor has had some unique challenges (one of those being MAJOR reconstructive jaw surgery that can take up to a year to fully heal) AND she’s about to start full-time heavy-duty college coursework again this Monday. My wedding date is actually 10/9/10. So we have less than two months!
Anyhow, I’m helping her much as I can without stressing myself out or “taking over” my own bridal shower. BUT we could use some ideas for both 1) WHERE to hold the shower, and 2) WHAT to do during the shower/what is proper etiquette??
Can you help us out? We are both very much in the dark on this subject! Also, how soon do I need to send out shower invitations for about 25-30 women, if we’re going to hold the shower two days before my wedding (10/7/10)??
Thanks a bunch! You guys rock!
Post # 3
Where to have it: Someone who has a big enough home, church rec hall, park, etc.
What to do: eat some food, play some games, open some presents. That’s pretty much how mine went.
Post # 4
Typically invites go out 4-6 weeks in advance of showers. If people need to make special travel arrangements, may want to do so sonner/start spreading the word. At my shower we ate, played games, and opened presents too. I recommend having it at someone’s home. Mine was held in a cute little tea house but it tuened out being a little too small and somethings were schratched because of lack of space. Save yourselves the time and money and hold it at a family/bridal party memeber’s home. Don’t try and play hostess day of your shower, that is where your Maid/Matron of Honor needs to take over so you can just enjoy yourself. Trust me, we brides have enough to worry about with planning. Shower time should be a time to sit back and let someone else do the work 😉
Post # 5
Have someone assigned to take notes on who gave you what for gifts.
My shower today is being hosted by my Future Mother-In-Law and being held at my house. We’re going to eat, drink, open presents and play one or two games.
Post # 6
Okay, update since last post for me . . . . we’ve already gotten probably 7 RSVP’s back, and we mailed our invitations out only on 8/9/10!! Anyhow, over 2/3 of them are actually “no” for attending the wedding. Including from a couple people I had intended to invite to my ladies-only bridal shower.
SO do I STILL invite those women who declined the wedding invitation to my bridal shower? Or do I not even bother? I knew you didn’t invite folks to your shower that you didn’t invite to the wedding, also, an etiquette rule. But what about this situation? Do I still go ahead and invite them ALL regardless??
Post # 7
I had a kind of crazy shower planning too. Maid/Matron of Honor kept putting the planning off until it was almost too late. Since everyone was across the country we did it 2 days before hand too. We combined doing the mani/pedi’s with the shower. The salon was really nice and let us use this gorgeous patio upstatirs outside and we had just morning bagels, cakes, juice, fruit etc. I was happy.