(Closed) Need moral support for dealing with FFIL

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

How does your Fiance feel about it?  If it is important to him that his dad is at the wedding he should express that and figure out a way to get him there.  I’m sorry you going through this.  One of the hardest things about wedding planning is the wrench that other people throw into our best laid plans.  Good luck! 

Post # 4
2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

If he comes he comes…unfortunately it sounds like there is nothing you can do at this stage..furthermore he has had a lot of time to come up with a solution. It sounds like he is being difficult on purpoise.

Post # 5
2641 posts
Sugar bee

I’m sorry.  It sounds like Future Father-In-Law is doing what he can to show you two that he’s unhappy you’ve “inconvenienced him”.  So he’s diggin his heels in.  But in the end, if he doesn’t go, he’ll be the one to regret it.

I didn’t go to a cousin’s wedding once, because I was unhappy the way his wife (presumably) made some etiquette faux pas on the invitations.  He wasn’t even a cousin I was terribly close to.   But I regret now, not going.  I think it will be 10x worse for Future Father-In-Law.  I hope he changes his mind.

I can understand when ppl fel inconvenienced by an Out of Town wedding, particularly if they feel it might have made better sense to get married closer.  But when given the opp to voice concern, he didn’t do it.  And when it’s your own kid, you kind of suck it up.  But that’s just me. 

I would just have Fiance make sure he tells his dad what it would mean to him to have him there.  Have a heart to heart.  It’s often hard for guys to do.  But because of that, it might have greater impact.

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