- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
We are getting married in Sedona, AZ the end of June. My family lives in Phoenix and they are paying for most everything, the rest we are paying for ourselves. We wanted to have the wedding closer to them so that they would not have the travel costs on top of everthing else. Since my extended family and all of my FI’s family live in Washington/Oregon we ran the idea past them before we made any concrete decisions (this was at Christmas time). Everyone said that it was doable, even my Future Father-In-Law. I thought that it was an acceptable thing to ask him to travel to AZ for a couple days since he is not contributing anthing to his son’s wedding otherwise. All my family and friends made their reservations in Jan/Feb after the save the dates were sent. My Future Father-In-Law called 6 weeks before the wedding to tell us that it was an inconvienence to come since he has bills and stuff to pay and that it was our fault since we chose to have it so far away. He then proceeded to tell my Fiance about some new things he had bought himself that were much for expensive than the plane tickets, rental car, and hotel would have been for at least 4 people. Now he is looking at plane tickets that of course twice as much and he won’t take my suggestions of which airlines are cheapest. He just says “don’t expect me to be there.” This story could go on and on but basically I don’t understand why he is being rude about spending $500 to go to his son’s wedding when he has the money ( or at least had 6 months to come up with it). He has a good job and could afford it. I feel horrible and guilty that it is an inconvenience to him and it is really dragging me down. What am I supposed to do?