Need opinion

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You cant tell people how to spend thier money… people have different priorities.. 


Im becoming and more shocke by how preoccupied people are with gifts on this website.. she came and shared the day with you.. if youre just inviting people for gifts pleas make sure and state that a gift will be required for entry on the inviation, so that you can save yourself some heartache…


Post # 4
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Ummm sounds like you already arent real friends

ETA: Is this a real post bc the weekend is near and that’s usually when this happens….

Post # 5
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Kandiss16:  I could not agree with you more about how preoccupied with gifts people seem to be here

Post # 6
2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Burnedbee:  Sounds like you only wanted guests to come and give presents.  While I agree it’s rude to attend a wedding empty handed, it’s even more rude to complain about not receiving a gift or card. Ending a friendship over this is immature. It’s her money to spend how she chooses and if manicures and highlights are important to her that’s her choice. If you only had the wedding expecting to profit I think you got married for the wrong reasons and should have saved yhe tome, energy and money from throwing the wedding in the first place.

Post # 7
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@gelaine22: +1, was just thinking the same thing. Was going to write a response but now I won’t bother, lol.  

Post # 8
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@gelaine22:  u might b right.. doesnt hav any other posts and her wedding is already passed

Post # 10
18 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Burnedbee:  That’s because you’re not tacky like your friend is. It is extremely gauche to come to a wedding without even a card to congratulate the couple on their wedding. Making a scene about it is tacky too, though.

I’ve never, ever heard of the concept that brides invite people to their wedding for the gifts. Um, what? Why not just save the $100+ pp you’ll spend on their food and drink and go buy yourself a $20 toaster oven? What a collosal waste of cash to throw a reception just for the gifts! Like I said, never done.

The reason why people “expect” gifts is because it is proper etiquette to at least show up with a card or whatever you can afford. Of course a bride will get offended if people come empty handed to a wedding; not because they “expect” gifts but because it shows how little the couple means to that person when the couple is giving them free food, free drink, free alcohol (likely), free favors, etc. It’s tacky because it is offensive! That’s what tacky means! If no one gets offended, then it is not tacky, hence your whole, “yeah it is tacky but so is expecting gifts” argument goes down the drain.

Post # 11
5905 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Burnedbee:  …so…you’re willing to throw a friendship away because this med student, who’s finances are none of your affair, neglected to remit a gift at either your shower or wedding, but had the audacity to remain in her 2 bedroom loft, maintain her regular beauty regime which includes but is not limited to getting her hair hightlighted and manicures and continue to go out and have fun at golf clubs and such…..THAT BITCH….

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