Post # 1
I love WeddingBee and read the posts all the time and they are very helpful. I am hoping the Weddingbee community can chime in with their opinions to help me decide on something. My FI and I are having a hard time finding a venue for next year around the DC Metropolitan area for the large size of our guests and small budget (all four parents come from large very close families, so no matter what our list will be huge). Every venue we can afford is booked for every friday, saturday,and sunday wedding and the ones that are not booked yet have the absurd DC area price tags on them. We know our guests would prefer if we held something near DC for travelling purposes, but the only way to do that has been to go a little unconventional. The venue that we both equally love and have been excited about is available for the evening of Tuesday July 3, 2012. Initially I LOVED the idea. Everyone is off that wednesday for 4th of July so they could stay and dance and have the next day off! My friends who are teachers and guests will children will not have to worry about school. Not to mention we save a significant amount of money on the venue because its a weekday event, and since we are paying for this ourselves any budget saving moves are important to us. However, in the midst of my excitement I’ve had a few friends who have really bumbed me out by saying “do you really want to be That girl who gets married on a tuesday?” and “holiday weddings are not fair because flights are expensive” making me now second guess this idea =( My otlook on it has been that if I sent out the Save the Dates almost a year in advance my guests would hopefully have time to plan accordingly. Also I figured with 4th of July falling on a wednesday next year, who better way to utilize a silly midweek day off??
I would love and appreciate any thoughts anyone may have on this. We have to put money down on the venue NLT next friday (22 July 2011) so I need to make moves! Thank you =) <3
Post # 3
Wow that’s tough. I know as a guest, it would be stressful to have to travel out to a wedding so quickly. I probably wouldn’t stay late and party because it would mean I would have to miss a second day of work in order to recover for the rest of the week.
Post # 4
Another thing to consider is that while it may be cheaper for you, hotels and flights and everything else will increase significantly for your guests. You may also have a lot of people declining because it IS a holiday.
Post # 5
I think it is a great idea. What is wrong with getting married on a Tuesday? I’ve never heard of something being wrong with getting married on a Tuesday. I don’t know a lot about flights during the holidays but I would think if you give advance notice it would be fine. People travel to visit family on the 4th anway! It’s just usually for a cookout instead of a wedding. I say absolutely go for it!
Post # 6
I personally wouldn’t do it cause its in the middle of the week (even though its a holiday, I can see people having to take Monday off too to travel) and that’s holiday people can be busy or on vacation. But in your situation it sounds like you love the venue and its a date that works for your guests, so why not. Don’t worry about the day, you have justified it already by the sound of your email.
Post # 7
I probably wouldn’t do it. Way too many moving parts to be able to make this happen, you know?
Post # 8
Thanks everyone, good food for thought.
Post # 9
@Mel1982: May not be the best idea. But do whats best for you. The people who love you and really care will be there even if you had it on christmas day!
Post # 10
My FI’s cousin got married on labor day weekend, and his dad complianed about it being a little inconsiderate of guests to get married over a holiday like that. I would think some people probably have annual July 4th plans or trips they take and you’ll probably lose some guests because of that. Also it will be more diffucult for your out of town guests to get there for a Wednesday wedding. If I were a guest, I’d feel a little inconvenienced by that choice of date.
Post # 11
@Captain013: you are right about that. The people that REALLY want to be there will make it happen, but you still run the risk of them feeling inconvenienced and missing some people who are on the cusp that you would probably want there, but who would choose not to come.
Post # 13
I say go for it. I personally don’t like when people get married around holidays, b/c those are usually already taken up by family events, but this may be a passive way to cut down your guest list to a reasonable number (especially if you are paying for it yourselves!) Those who find it odd or inconvenient won’t come. Those who are nearest and dearest will make any odd date work.
Post # 14
Weekday weddings aren’t the issue… lets be real… times are hard and everything is expensive. I have been to several weekday weddings (chosen as a cost savings) that were absolutely awesome! And I had to work the next day.
If you do have it on a Tuesday though, expect it to be a shorter wedding, have it a little later (in case people have to work that day which is possible even though they would be off the next day).. I say this because even though the next day is a holiday, people get in that routine/sleep patterns during week days and your guests will be tired earlier than normal. I would stick with a 6:30-9:30.
BUT… I do not like the idea of having it on a holiday.. many people planned vacations/travel around holidays so you may end up with several people who already have plans and cant make it. Or people who are like me who want to go away spur of the moment but then cant because we have a wedding to attend.
Post # 15
If I was a local guest I wouldn’t mind this so much, but if I was coming from out of town I’d probably have to take 2 days off of work (Mon & Tues) so even though Wed is a holiday it’d be a bit of a drag.
If you do decide to do it I’d say get your STD’s out ASAP, because people plan vacations pretty far in advance, and a lot of people travel during that week.
Post # 16
I just started planning and thought of having the wedding on July 4th…actually doing it that evening, so all of our guests could see the fireworks while we were partying. Ultimately, asking for guests to take Tuesday off to travel and then Thursday off to go home/recover, meant we were asking them to take a lot of time off during the week. I decided on a Sunday wedding, so guests just have to take Monday off.