Post # 1
Hey everyone, I am considering having a very small destination wedding in Ireland. We are talking about paying for half of everyones flight and hotel so at least our immediate families can attend. What are your thoughts, do you think this will be too hard to pull off? Anyone have a destination wedding, what are the advantages and disadvantages? Thanks loves!!!
Post # 3
We had a destination wedding and we paid for everyones flights, accommodation, transport etc. It is a really nice thing to do but is not expected.
I also found it pretty easy to plan a Destination Wedding, others however find it stressful. I think it is upto the person how stressful or not the planning process is. If you are a stress head/control freak then it may not be the type of wedding for you.
There are also companies that will do it all for you so that is always an option as well.
Also don’t be suprised if people still decline to come even if you are paying half the costs. We paid full costs but still had people decline the offer for their own reasons which is fair enough.
I would start by making a list of your must have guests and talking to them about whether they could make it or not.
Post # 4
I think Ireland would be fantastic – I am getting married in Greece but looked at Ireland and Scotland as well. The flights have become cheaper as time as gone on. But, if I could do anything again, for cost, I would do it in off season (not the summer) as the price difference between the seasons is noticeable. I hired a wedding planner for where we chose so I know the paperwork would be done the way it needs to be and to handle details on site.
A Destination Wedding also gives you something quite exciting and a chance to travel with friends and family that you never would get the chance to do – share something quite unique.
As withJ Jaye, you have to be ready for people not to come. My wedding will not have my family (we are having a second reception in my hometown for them) as the commitments/time/money might not let them come. I don’t live near my family now so for me, I can deal with them not there but doing some of the traditions back home after….you need to consider this before having a Destination Wedding and what you really want out of that day.
Post # 5
Have you looked into the requirements for a wedding in Ireland? My uncle wanted to get married there but he said they have crazy rules about how long you have to be in the country before and after. It was quite a long time! I wanna say like up tp 6 weeks total if he was correct.
Post # 6
Hey! I am actually planning a destination wedding in Ireland right now, so I obviously think it is a fantastic idea 🙂
If you want to talk specifics, PM me!
Post # 7
I hang out on this board quite a bit, as we love to photograph destination weddings (who doesn’t…) and they can be as easy or as difficult as you make them. (I.E. you can let a planner set eveything up for your and just take it as it comes; or you can plan to arrange every last bow on every chair personally – i know that is extreme, but you get my point)
One of the prevailing themes however is the lack of timely RSVP, which could really stress you out, since you are planning to pay for half. (which is very sweet of you, btw). Just make sure to get your commitments early, so you are covered. Also, get everyone passport ready now. I have heard of the “rush” stories or people having to pass on attending, just because they did not leave themselves enough time to get one. (sad)
Check out your wedding planner thoroughly, make sure that they are good. Wedding boards for the area will usually root out the bad ones. The majority of services will happen before the wedding, and you can use local services, as you will be in town a few days in advance to bring it all together. Maybe take a trip there in advance to do some personal hiring, provided that it is in your budget.
I always recommend a US photographer and/or videographer as well (please forget that I am a photographer. i am just a paranoid person, so please follow my thinking). If your photographer is in Greece or Thailand and not delivering, what recourse do you have? Will you see them again? Can you enforce a contract? This is the one service that must be delivered after the wedding, and can you imagine the nightmare of trying to hunt down an overseas photographer from your home in the states and demand your images? Or have bad prints re-done? You could always hire a photographer that is associated with your venue for some security, but then you really have no control over your photo style or quality, and given the fact that most anyone reading this chose a destinatation to have a spectacular event, I would make sure that you find a photographer to capture it appropriately.
Just my two cents… I am definitely not always correct, but I hope I gave you somethings to consider…
Oh yeah, I have never heard of the six week rule… Might want to check that one out. Nothing like a forced month and a half long honeymoon! 🙂 I can’t imagine that to be true.
Post # 7
jennlb: Hey there! I know this message was from a while back, but I’m currently planning my destination wedding to Ireland and would LOVE some advice. Please let me know if we can chat! =)