(Closed) Need other Brides to talk to

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Hostess
3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m sorry that you feel this way. My bridesmaids (namely my MOH) have been a massive help in mostly my decision-making process. Like you, I’m very crafty and have done pretty much everything on my own. And since all of my girls are anywhere from 500-6,000 miles away, I can only rely on them for things that can be done on the internet. 

That is what your bridal party is there for. To support you and to stand by you on one of the most important days of your life. 

I’m a bit confused, what do you mean that you didn’t choose your bridesmaids? Why didn’t you get to pick your own bridal party? 

 

Post # 4
Member
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i think some people are glad to help but wait to be asked maybe?

im not sure it would necessarily occur to me to offer help unless you specifically said “so on saturday i need to make 100 bags of almonds and the tags…”

then i might say “im free, need a hand!”

Post # 6
Member
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

 

I didn’t have any help from my BM’s either.  I wanted my best friends to be there, they were.  I gave them a gift thanking them for standing by my side, for being there for me and now DH, for being part of some of the biggest memories and best times of my life. 

I don’t get what you mean about .. you not picking your bridesmaids.  Sometimes people need to be asked to be helpful.

Post # 9
Member
12250 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That stinks! But atleast you handsome groom to  console you/help you make 300 Jordan Almond favors!

Post # 11
Member
2098 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m sorry you didn’t get to pick your BM. You listed their ages of 17 and 18…They are teens. Is it possible no one has told them they need to be helping you? It wasn’t until I was in a wedding in my early 20’s that I realized how much support BM give a bride. I’m sure teens just think it’s about wearing a nice dress and showing up.

Have you considered asking for their help? Or asking their parents for their help? Also, is it too late to ask at least one friend to stand by you?

I keep seeing you write they are making your miserable. How is it that children (literally) are making you miserable? Are they being rude to you? What’s the real reason? Do you not feel supported? Are you resentful about something?

I am reading this book called Emotionally Engaged, which I highly suggest to any bride. It talks about expectations and how they can really get us down. I went through my share of that early on in our engagement.

You always have support on WB!!! Keep writing here! 🙂

 

Post # 13
Member
2376 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

They may not know how to help – you said you’re crafty and you’ve got the DIY situation under control.  My MOH is across the country in Seattle, and one of my bridesmaids is in DC.  So they’re helping by giving opinions, providing sanity/bridezilla checks and general emotional support.  Try asking for some help getting things assembled, I’m sure they’d love to help.  They’re not mind readers, give them some direction!

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