- 4 years ago
Okay ladies … I need some advice, inspiration, ideas, considerations, etc. Four months ago, my wonderful man bought me the most beautiful gemstone I’d laid eyes on. As background, we’d had a casual convo about our birthstones, and in looking up his (June – Alexandrite) I was immediately smitten. I knew right then and there that I would love to have an alex in an ering or wedding band to symbolize him being my partner in life. I stumbled across one that immediately took my breath away because it wasn’t quite the normal/cherished color shift of blue/green to purple; rather, it was a blue/green to dusty rose/mauve color. (cue ‘angels singing down from heaven’) It was immediate, heartwarming, speak-to-me-from-the-heavens L-O-V-E! Long story short, his grandmom let the cat out of the bag that he was planning to buy it for me to have set in an engagement ring. Woohoo – no more ogling it on my ipad and wishing, and hoping, and dreaming … LOL
Without further ado, here she is (also my avatar) … Meet Alex, my beautiful, 2.02 ct, step cut, natural pear. She has a window, but is otherwise flawless to my naked eye as well as when I look at her under magnification. I am so in love with her color change qualities, I just cannot stand it!
And four months later, she’s still sitting securely locked in the safe, because I have not been able to settle on a setting to have her mounted. He’s letting me drive the setting/design so I have what I love/will want to wear. I wanted something special, unique, yet protective in terms of the stone (pears & their points … ugh, the only thing about it that I’m not keen on), but not overly trendy where it would feel ‘dated’ in 20 years. My first choice was a custom east/west diamond pseudo-halo setting from Gabriel & Co. but we ran into issues with having to go through jewelers to have GCo custom make the setting (a modification of one they carry) because jewelers could not properly convey what I wanted to GCo, and GCo won’t work directly with the customers. Scratch GCo off the list …
I had found a couple settings I liked from Shane Co. but only one of them would be able to hold this stone (size wise) … which I found odd. I think it was more that their settings would adequately hold a 2 ct pear diamond if I bought it from them, but they didn’t seem to want to go in any way, shape or form “above and beyond” to look up specifics/measurements to see if other settings could hold my stone. So, scratch ShaneCo.
I have literally combed the freaking internet up and down, looking for pear settings/custom inspiration that are not too big (but not these super, tiny/thin bands either – no offense to the dainty-ring lovers … just not for me … I’m a ring size 7), are unique, would provide some level of protection for my alex (those who know alex understand how special and rare they are), etc. Which brings me to …
A custom jewerly maker on Etsy, who has this ring that I do love, and fits the bill for everything I want, and I love how the diamond ribbons flip over to the underside of the band under the center stone.
So what’s the problem? The size … I LOVE this ring, and I know my alex would look beautiful in it, but it would be such a substantial size (about 11-12 mm wide, given my stone dimensions), that there really would be no room for a wedding band to sit beside it (and I wouldn’t want something ‘form fitting’ to the ering either, because I may want to wear just the band some days).
Now, I’m left thinking that what was intended to be my engagement stone, might in fact become my wedding band stone, and have this ring made w/the alex for my wedding band. Not that I have any heartburn with that … in fact, it’d be even more special to me that the ring that (IMO) really matters and symbolizes ‘marriage’ has his birthstone vs the e-ring that sometimes is worn, and sometimes is not.
So, my options are:
1) have this be the engagement ring, then move it to the right hand after the wedding so there is room for the wedding band to be on the left ring finger (not super keen on this idea, and frankly after spending what he spent for the stone, I doubt he would be keen on it either LOL);
2) have it made for the wedding band, and get a nice, modest moissy ering (I so love me some moissy) that I’d move to the right hand later … double bling!
3) wait … look at THIS setting … (post pic/link to setting you think/have seen/have that might fit the bill and be considered … should not be a plain solitaire, or plain bezel setting … must have some sort of diamonds to help offset the alex’s fabulous color!)
Help me, ladies! If you have pear gemstone settings that look like what I’m looking for, please post/link/share pics or just chime in with your advice (is there something else I’m not thinking of here, considering, etc. I don’t want ring regret down the road) … I do love this ring, but am not committed to it in any way just yet, aside from communicating with the jeweler who makes it. I do, however, have full faith & confidence in him to deliver a quality, beautiful ring based on our extensive conversations and the many, many positive reviews of his work.
Thanks in advance if you made it through this, and bonus points to those who offer suggestions, advice, etc. Really appreciate it … I know that poor stone is dying to get out of the safe and make her debut!