Post # 1
My darling, precious nephew decided to join our family 6 weeks early on Saturday. My SIL went to use the bathroom at 3 am and her water broke. Labor and delivery went well, but he’s been in the NICU since then and they just put him on a breathing tube yesterday. His oxygen and other levels are low.
I know he’s in good hands, but I’m so worried for my brother and SIL. They are getting discharged today and the thought of them going home without their little boy is crushing. I had a son this past September, and I couldn’t even imagine what they’re going through.
I want to do as much as possibel for them. They’re not the type to accept help easily. They keep trying to put on a strong face but I know they must be hurting inside.
I already went to their house last night and stocked their freezer and pantry with easy to make meals. They don’t even have their nursery set up yet (they still have it set up as a guest bedroom). I’d love to take care of that for them, but I don’t want to overstep my bounds.
I guess I’m just looking for positive stories, and ideas for how to help them through this trying time.
Post # 2
ExcitedScaredBee: Both of my children were premies and they are both happy and healthy. One was 34 weeks, the other 36. NICU care has advanced so much. I would be optimistic.
I would be careful not to overstep your bounds. Organizing the nursery is likely to be task they want to take on themselves as soon as they are able to relax a little about the baby.
In the meantime supporting them with meals, housekeeping, gift cards for meals and coffee at or near the hospital will be appreciated I’m sure.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
ExcitedScaredBee: That was so so sweet of you to stock their place with food! I’m sure they’ll really appreciate it.
My husband was born 10 weeks early way back in 1990…. he’s now 6’2″, gorgeous, smart and kind and funny, with no recurring health problems. I’m sure your little guy will be just fine too 🙂
Post # 4
ExcitedScaredBee: My son was 7 weeks early and we stayed in the NICU for 4 weeks. He is now almost 3. He still is little behind but eventually will catch up. NICU care is very, very good compared to say when my niece was born she was born about the same time frame17 years ago. They will do everything to keep that baby thriving.
My son maybe my little peanut, he is on the small side for his age but he is a spit fire so don’t let it get you down. Just be supportive.
Post # 5
I was born a month early, was 4 lbs, and in the NICU. I turned out fine 🙂
Post # 6
A friend’s baby was born at 34 weeks very recently, and went home about 2 weeks later. I think the stocking of the pantry was very sweet, but I would not decorate the nursery, as I’m sure they want to do that themselves.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
OOPS I meant my hubby was born 10 weeks early in 1980, not 1990. I’m not a cradlerobber ; )
Post # 8
I have three nephews who were born premies. My oldest who just turned 7 this past week was born 10 weeks premature and was in the NICU for 48 days and had issues with oxygen, holding his own body temp and other things and he’s now a strong very much my not so little man anymore and doing great! My second (brothers) was born 9 weeks 5 days early and was in NICU for 38 days with his issues and is now a strong 4 year old boy with some food allergies and asthma but amazing! And my most recent nephew (another brother) was born 33 weeks early in NICU for 2 weeks and is doing great at almost 2 and a half months. Im praying for your nephew and I pray he is discharged healthy and strong when he is ready!
Post # 9
My son was a 33 weeker and was in the NICU about a month. The meals yuo made are going to eb so helpful, I wish we had recieved more, since driving back and forth to the NICU was overwhelming the last thing i wanted (but had to) to do was make dinner. Personally, I am so thankful my parents and BIL and SIL put together our nursery furniture, it was one less thing for us to worry about. Plus, once my son came home it took my at least another 6 months to find the time to decorate it. Just ask, really.
On to baby boy, though. Despite being a preemie he is thriving, on the smaller side of the growth charts but meeting all his milestone on time, not even age adjusted. While in the NICU he was on oxygen for a few days and gradually weened to room air after about a week and a half. HIs biggest challenge was eating, getting the suck/swallow/breath down. He did get used to the bottle in the NICU so nursing was really difficult so i pumped for a year (sucked).
I will say some prayers for strength for the little guy and your family!
Post # 10
My friends baby was born 6 weeks early. He made it home 2 weeks prior to his original due date (for all premies, they always shoot for them bieng home home by the original due date) He had some oxygen issues like your nephew, and some feeding issues. Really, 6 weeks early is nothing anymore. NICUs are great, and at 6 weeks you are so close to full term that most of the issues are just watching for issues. Lungs would be slightly underdeveloped, and they might not quite be ready for nursing yet. My friend though, was so confident in her little one, she left during visting hours to go to her shower that was originally planned to be prior to her due date a week after he was born.
I would offer on the nursery if they need a hand (moving the bed, ect) but I wouldn’t just do it for them. Mom might not be up for helping dad move the bed, but they likely don’t want someone else painting the duckies on the wall. 🙂
Post # 11
ExcitedScaredBee: I have a preemie. She was born May 2013 and is a happy, healthy typically developing 15 month old.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
My cousin’a daughter was born at 32 weeks. She was in the NICU I believe 17 days? She is now a happy, healthy, beautiful and SUPER smart 11 year old. No delays whatsoever.
sticking up the freezer and pantry was definitely a grrat gesture. I think that alone shows them you are willing to help with anything they need. Maybe ask if they need help picking up stuff the baby will need right away once he or she gets home. I agree with PPs that setting up the nursery would likely be overstepping boundaries and unless they planned in having DS sleep in the nursery, they don’t need it set up right away anyway.
Best wishes for your nephew!
Post # 13
My DH was born about 8 weeks early in the 70’s….he turned out awesome 🙂
Post # 14
my niece and nephew were due on may 3. they arrived on the 20th of february. i think that’s 10 weeks early. they spent 6 weeks in the NICU. my niece was a little under 2 pounds at birth, and my nephew was a little over 2 pounds. and they’re now happy, healthy 6 year olds who are thriving and ahead of all of their friends. no developmental issues, no health issues, none of it.
we filled the freezer and fridge with pre-made meals, because there was never time to cook. we also made sure that the laundry was always done, and we cleaned the house once a week.
Post # 15
My son came into the world 6 weeks early also at 4lbs 9oz. He was so little, it was hard seeing him like that. He had a feeding tube for a few days but he only stayed in NICU for a week. He is now 4 yrs old and such a happy little boy. He never had any other real medical issues. During this time my sister, mom, and FMIL stayed with us helping out. This was really great considering we lived 2 states apart. Prayers for your nephew!