Post # 1
I’m not a frequent poster, but I could really use some reassurance. I’ve had my sapphire engagement ring since March 2012. FI proposed with a promise ring he picked out himself with the intent that I would pick out my real engagement ring myself so I would have something that I truly liked as my forever ring, and then wear the promise ring as a RHR when I wanted. I love my ring… but I’ve had concerns from the start that the sapphire is too dark. You see, 99.9% of the time, my ring looks like this:
(Pictures are from when I was playing with our newly purchased wedding bands)
I’ve gotten so many comments along the lines of “Oh, did you want a black stone?” “I thought sapphires were supposed to be blue?” and “Oh it’s a sapphire? I thought it was a black diamond.” The last one actually came from a salesperson at the jewelry store we bought it from when we were looking at wedding bands.
It’s only when I take it off, and light can hit it from underneath (or when it’s in jewelry store lighting) does it look blue.
FI said he doesn’t mind if I replace the stone. Well actually, he says he doesn’t mind, but thinks I’m being silly, likes my ring the way it is, it looks blue to him, and he doesn’t understand what I’m freaking out about. I actually like darker stones and I don’t know if I would regret replacing it with a lighter/brighter stone. Also, due to our budget, if I did replace the stone, I would probably go with a lab grown one, which I don’t think I would mind having, mostly for the ethical reasons, but I said the same thing about the color of my stone when I got it and now look how I’m feeling! I don’t know what to do!
It’s less than 5 weeks until our wedding and I’m obsessing about this. I think I might be channeling my wedding nerves into this one detail. What do you bees think? Is it perfect the way it is and I’m just letting other peoples comments get to me due to pre-wedding stress? Or does it look poor quality and I should replace the stone?
Does anyone else have an inky/midnight blue sapphire to share?
Post # 3
@Auerie: I love and want your ring! I’m a sapphire girl myself…and I know SO is proposing soon with a full diamond ring – which is lovely but I really want a sapphire
Post # 4
I think I might be channeling my wedding nerves into this one detail.
Nail, meet head. The ring is gorgeous, lady! People can be stupid and say the first thing that comes into their peabrains, so try not to let what anyone says get to you. Sapphires come in all variety of shades and tones, like most any other stone out there. I wouldn’t swap – chances are, you’d just be feeding into that tiny voice in the back of your head that we’ve all got that says “Not good enough!” and it’d just start an avalanche.
Post # 5
@Auerie: I think it’s a beautiful ring.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
I love three-stoned rings! I think your ring is awesome the way it is.
Plus, sales-people aren’t gemologists, so they may not know everything about precious stones anyway. If you had not mentioned that it was a promise ring, I had really thought it is a beautiful engagement ring.
Post # 7
Quite a few sapphires are darker and inky, especially when set. Nothing wrong with that. And, no, sapphires aren’t supposed to be blue… they come in every color of the rainbow (only when they’re vivid red, we call them rubies). That’s kinda a huge part of what makes sapphs so awesome.
Post # 8
I prefer dark sapphires, so my vote goes to keep it.
Post # 9
@Auerie: I think your ring is gorgeous. Don’t let other people rain on your parade. Honestly, that salesperson from the jewelry store should have known better.
Post # 10
@Auerie: My emerald appears really dark (almost black) sometimes as well. I think it’s just a characteristic of these gemstones. But your sapphire is beautiful! I love the deep blue especially. You said you like darker stones. I agree with PP that you’re probably channeling stress into this.
Post # 11
Keep your ring. it’s a beautiful inky blue. I love it, don’t worry about silly comments. I’ve had them all. “Oh didn’t you want a diamond?” “Oh…that’s…um…nice!” “Oh well, you can upgrade later.” people’s comments had me doubting for months. I’ve since learnt to love my gorgeous inky blue Sapphire all over again.
Rock your ring with pride OP!
Post # 12
Your ring is beautiful. One of my best friends also has as a similar looking three stone ring with a sapphire centre stone, and her sapphire looks the same as your and I drools over hers every time I see her.
Ignore the idiots. If you love it, who cares about other people think?
PS. Love your profile pic – it’s the witch at the start of Beauty and the Beast, isn’t it?
Post # 13
@Auerie: Are you thinking of swapping it for a lighter sapphire or for a different type of stone altogether (diamond, moissanite, etc)? It could be your setting making it look so dark.
Post # 14
It is beautiful! Dark sapphires are my absolute favourite because they look so natural and flawless even if theyre not. Ones that are too bright or too blue automatically look fake/created to me and I wouldn’t get one, so I love love love yours!
Post # 15
I’d keep it, I love it.
I also have a dark blue sapphire e-ring. Honestly, I think the reason mine is so dark is that the stone itself is very deep. It doesn’t bother me, I love it.
Post # 16
Your rings are lovely! If you love the dark, inky, blue/black – then rock it!! If it doesn’t make your heart flutter – change it! That being said, inky/opaque sapphires are considered low quality. Walk into your average Macys and you’ll see a sea of navy blue/black sapphires that are nearly opaque. Sapphires that are a deep, vivid blue are considered most desirable.
My sapphire is a dark blue, but it never looks black, and it’s very clear regardless if I am wearing the ring or not. A jeweler told me that if a stone is well cut, it will reflect light up regardless of how much light the setting blocks. Poorly cut stones on the other hand are really dependent on their settings.
If I were you, check out some good sapphires & see if that’s what you’re looking for. Go to a good jewelry store & tell them why you’re looking because often times the stuff they have out is not necessarily the best. When I was ring shopping, they pulled sapphires from the vault for me to look at when I was trying to figure out color & cut & such. At the end of the day though, if your current stone speaks to you – keep it, love it, & don’t question it!