Post # 1
So, yesterday my FMIL talked to me and said people in her family are complaining that there’s nothing left on the Target registry but expensive things like a vacuum and small appliances. I told her that the Crate & Barrel registry was chock full of stuff, most of it inexpensive, but she said none of her relatives want to shop there because there isn’t a physical store nearby. Uh, internet?
I had a lot of trouble with the Target registry (items not showing up online, being out of stock, etc.) so I deleted almost everything off it and put comparable items on our C&B registry. Are people really that wary of the internet? I don’t want to add things to the Target registry just for the sake of adding them, you know? FI have lived together for almost three years, so there isn’t a whole lot we still need from there.
Help. Should I ignore her and leave the registry as-is? Or should I just suck it up and add little things?
Post # 3
Ugh. Tough call.
What is Target’s return policy? Do they give you cash or just store credit if you return things on your registry?
You could beef up the target registry, then retun the things you don’t really want and use the credits to buy the more expensive things on your Target registry.
Post # 4
I think I agree with texasmeredith. Some peope just aren’t comfortable shopping online. Also, I don’t know how expensive the things are Crate & Barrel are but I sort of shy away from there because it seems like everything would be expensive.
Post # 5
If there’s no receipt, you can only return it for store credit for something in that department, and I think there’s a limit of $150/year. If there’s a receipt, it wouldn’t be a problem.
I love Target for clothes and makeup and snacks and jewelry, but not housewares.
Post # 6
MissAsB, the things on our C&B registry are cheap! Wine glasses are like $2.99 there. I don’t know why it gets a bad rap for being overpriced, because it’s totally not. Everything on there is under $50. We have tons in the $5-$10 range, too.
Post # 7
@Chillmer: Wow that isn’t bad at all! I will have to check them out once I have a job.
Post # 8
From what I hear Target’s return policy can be really bad if you don’t have a reciept (which with everything going on can be easy to loose if you were given one in the first place) and you have to return withing 90 days from purchase. I think they also have a limit on the number of items that you can return as well. We chose items that people can get in store for our BBB registry but we are also doing an Amazon registry for some fun items like games and such for those who may not have time to go to a physical store and can get free shipping if planned in advance. I hate paying shipping so I would have to take that into account for when figuring out how much I can spend on a couple. It seems like people are looking for less expensive items and shipping costs may cute into that greatly.
Post # 9
I agree Target may not be a great store to register at (i haven’t had any problems) but I think people still like the idea of going to a store and buying a present. Even with my target registry I have tried to make sure I have plenty of items that are available in store and online.
Post # 10
Ugh — I registered at Target and it frustrates me every day! I ended up switching a lot of stuff to our Macy’s registry (except for electronics like a digital video camera!) I wouldn’t sweat this at all, though — the registry is put up usually as a “suggestion” list (except for big sets of china/silver/flatware/crystal), so I think a lot of people will take a look at the C&B website and then find you comparable gifts elsewhere — I mean, do you really want the C&B silver plated tongs? Or will the silver plated tongs from Target or Macy’s or anywhere else serve you the same way? I wouldn’t change your registry 🙂
Post # 11
I honestly just think she is looking for something to complain about. I also had to hear for about 30 minutes how someone called the day our hotel block ended and there were no double rooms left. Maybe you shouldn’t have waited until the last day?
I’ll go through it and see if there’s anything I can move from the C&B registry over to Target. I mean, a vegetable peeler is a vegetable peeler, right? I just thought the C&B registry was much more user-friendly and that most people were down with the internet.
Post # 12
Can you tell her to just get her friends to give you gift certificates?
Post # 13
Not even my FDIL’s younger friends have gotten her anything online- they have waited until a day or few hours to drop into Target to pick up shower gifts, and I doubt that any of the older women will do anything much more than check the online registries so that they can scope out what they want to buy before going to the store and inspecting the merchandise. This is what you do if you plan to spend a relatively large amount of money. You go in person to look at the item(s). The only online gift FDIL received so far, was a $200 entryway bench from my SIL… and that was because SIL lives in Massachusetts.
Since the whole point of the registry is to help people find the items which YOU desire, it seems to make sense to accomodate their shopping habits. People love shopping registries, but if they’ve waited until a few days before an event, and they can’t find anything suitable nearby… chances are they will buy off the registry. And as I’ve said before, if that is okay with you, then that’s okay.
I teach anthropology- and it’s been very interesting to see the buying patterns for my son’s wedding, as they progressively have their showers with differing groups of people. Family members bought high ticket items for them before the invitations went out. Young college friends bought them whisks off the registry (what’s a registry, huh?) Older, young marrieds bought them blenders, pyrex baking dishes, rubbermaid storage containers, serving bowls, nice dishtowels and GAMES. For this next shower with the church ladies, I predict you will see the 600 count sheets and down comforters. The Crock Pot may also appear- older ladies attach no stigma to crockpottery. All very entertaining- they still have no flatware… and my son says he longs for the day when he has a pot with a lid at his convenience. (He lives with seven other guys and they don’t have a pot with a lid in the house. I didn’t know this until recently… mea culpa.)
Post # 14
Would you be interested in gift cards? Maybe they can give a gift card to Target or C&B. Of maybe you can suggest you take cash? It’s not uncommon now days to ask for that.