Post # 1
I’lll open by saying that I’m a guy looking to propose to my girlfriend in a few months, and I’m trying to figure out what to do about the ring. My mom has giving me her mother’s engagement ring and wedding band and said that I can do whatever I’d like with them. I’d love to use them if possible, but I also really want the ring to “wow” my girlfriend. She’s very classy, and I want to give her something that’s as beautiful as her.
Since I have no experience with rings and modifications or anything, I decided to ask around and see what options I had and what input people had for the rings. I’m not sure about the size of the center diamond, but one thought I had was to replace it with something a little larger.
This ring has been around since the 1950s, so I’m not sure if getting this ring cleaned again (my mom took it to a jeweler several years ago to get it fixed up) would help restore some of its glamour, or if I should look into more expensive options to make it the perfect ring.
As a fallback, I could always buy a new ring. I’d like to use this one if possible. You know, for sentiment’s sake.
Sorry for the low-quality images, but thanks for any help you guys can offer!
Post # 3
well if she is into vintage styles it could still be good for her. If not I would suggest using the diamond from this ring and have it set into a new setting. Maybe a halo if you want the finger coverage to be larger
Post # 4
First of all, how adorable that you are on here even asking this question…
Secondly – I think it totally depends on her style, do you think she’d love this one because of what it is, would she rock it? Or would she like a more modern style?
Post # 5
I think getting the diamond put in a new setting will look great 🙂
Post # 6
Thanks for the quick replies!
That’s what has really bothered me. She doesn’t have a very vintage style, so the ring as it is probably won’t be exactly what she’d want. I’m worried that if I try to make this ring seem less dated, I’ll end up butchering a family heirloom (my mom said she is fine with that, but still). If I do try and modify the ring, I plan on meeting with a jeweler who will draft up different designs and modifications.
Post # 7
Awwwww….I love seeing posts like these….Here’s my two cents….she will absolutely love any ring you give her because of who its from, and what it represents…HOWEVER, while the rings pictured are classic and gorgeous, they are old fashioned, and smaller in size…if you think she’ll love them, by all means go with them…but she has to wear them every single day for the rest of her life…I like them a lot, but they would not be for me and my style…do these match her style, and does she like them….Maybe you could look into switching the centerstone to something bigger? Or swapping out the gold for platinum? Talk to a jeweler about your options…Have you two talked about rings ever??? & Good luck with your proposal!
Post # 8
Why don’t you propose with this and thensofter different options to her oto how she’d like to make it her own? She might really appreciate it as it is.
Post # 9
Why not propose with this ring, and then give her the option of buying a new ring. Then you won’t butcher this one and you can give it to your son.
Post # 10
I’m a sentimental person so I like the idea that it’s your grandmother’s ring. But it’s not my style, not sure if it’s your girlfriend’s style either. I second the suggestion to take the center stone and reset it in something more her style.
With all the sentimental value in the rings, I would love the band as a right hand ring. But I wouldn’t want it as my wedding band since it isn’t my style. And the thought of using it as a trade in would break my heart.
Post # 11
so sweet you are posting here for advice.
My general advice would be to have the stone reset into a setting she loves. I’m not sure what your budget is but because you are saving on the stone you could get her a really great setting!
I think the first biggest thing to consider here is does she like yellow gold? If not, then a new set is definitely the way to go.
Does she like a lot of “bling”? If so, I think this would look beautiful in a pave or micropave halo setting. I’m thinking something like this:
I am super biased towards halos though and they definitely aren’t for everyone. Good luck! I can’t wait to see what you come up with.
Post # 12
I would LOVE that as an engagement ring. It is very classy.
Post # 13
I’ve never thought about proposing with this ring and then letting her have her input on the ring she lives with. That seems like a great idea!
I’m really leaning toward this idea because we haven’t spoken about rings at all. She’s got a great sense of style, and I’d hate for her to have to pretend she likes something that she can’t jive with!
Post # 14
I truly love the rings you posted and think they’re beautiful.
Here’s my two cents:
Since you said vintage really isn’t her overall style, and it seems like you’re considering this as an option, why not pick out a new ring to propose to your girlfriend with, and then give your grandmother’s ring to her as a wedding or anniversary gift so she can wear it on her right hand? That way she will have two very sentimental pieces of jewelry, one that her husband chose just for her to suit her tastes, and one that has family history to it.
Post # 15
Thanks for your 2 cents, Starla. That’s a good idea.
I think I’m really leaning toward keeping the ring as it is (aside from having a jeweler inspect it for any problems, resizing, etc.) and either proposing with it or giving it to her as a special gift. This has helped put me at ease, which is a great feeling.
I think I’ll wait until I talk to her parents about marrying there daughter and seeing what her mom thinks about the ring. She and her daughter have a similar style, so she may be a good judge of what will be most appreciated.
Thanks again for all the help!
Post # 16
I really like Starla’s idea! Don’t mess with your grandmother’s ring and then hope that your soon-to-be fiancee loves it; give it to her as is down the road… 🙂