- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
Sorry this is kind of long, but here it goes.
Fromt the beginning, ever since I was little I always wanted a big wedding, I alwalys loved wedding stuff and planning parties etc. I have 2 sisters, one that im very close with and one that im not so close to.
So legally my husband and I are married. We got married because we were already engaged but then he decided to join the military so we just did a JOP thing. we had a small (like 20 people) dinner thing after we went to the court house. I didnt wear a wedding dress, I never walked down the aisle, I never danced a first dance with my husband I never danced with my dad etc. So now 4 years later, with the right funds I can finally have the wedding I want, So anyway my husband is on deployment and while my husband is gone I want my sister and mom to help me with the wedding. I ask my sister several times if she wants to come do stuff with me for the wedding (yes somethimes they are last minute) but she always says no. She came with me once to go look at dresses. So after being upset she asks me why and i tell her. And she said shes not into wedding stuff, she thinks its stupid that im spending all this money on one day if we are already married, and that the weekends are the only time she has to spend with her husabnd (which I understand cuz there schedules cross during the week so they only have the weekend to see each other) So anyway we argued and she says im being selfish cuz I want her to come with me and do wedding stuff. She saus she knows nothing about weddings, and that even if she gave her opinion I wouldnt take it, so why even bother going etc. I wnated her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor but since she doesnt want to hgelp what should I do? Am I really being selfish for wanting her to come with me and do wedding stuff? Am i being close minded in wanting her to cvome with me? I knwo its not her thing and i know shes busy but I just want her to want to come with me and be happy to want to help eventhough weddings arent her thing. Opinions, advice? Am I douing soemthing wrong?