Post # 1
I am doing my guest list for my wedding and am torn over if I should invite my fiance’s sister in law. First off I have only met her twice and she lives on the other side of canada, therefore she does not know me at all. She attacked me on facebook insulting me as a parent and a person. She said a lot of things that she supposedly gathered from facebook that were not true at all. As a mother Im pretty sure that must dont agree with anyone belittling them as a parent, especially since she has never been around me with my kids or stepped foot inside my house to know what really goes on. However fiances brother is standing in the wedding so basically I HAVE to invite her but I dont agree with having to invite her. I dont want to be the one person who acts like a bitch and dont invite family and I know my future mother in law is definetely not going to agree with this. Im just not sure what feelings I will feel when I have to face her on my wedding day and my fiance says “we will get through it”. I have never imagined myself having to “get through” my wedding day. I want to spend my wedding day with people who care about us and want true happiness for us. Fiances brother and wife also made fun of me over a facebook status, I am really hurt by their actions. How do I deal with this? Please help!!!!
Post # 3
IMHO you have to invite her, she is family. It also seems as though this will cause a huge rift in the family, and especially since it’s HIS family, not yours, I say just invite.
Post # 4
You really do have to invite her as hard as that is for you. Sorry.
Post # 5
Invite her and hope she doesn’t come… or at least acts like a civilized adult on your big day. Give someone in your FH’s family a heads-up about what she’s said to you. Hopefully they’ll make sure she stays in line.
Post # 6
Lots of drama surrounding facebook in that family. Invite her, drop the entire family from your facebook (I’m not kidding…do it), and get ready to deal with them for the rest of your life.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry for you, unfortunately you have to invite her, she’s family. It would be different if your FI was the one not wanting to invite her, but you can’t decide to go down that road. It will cause nothing but drama, and his family will never forgive you for not inviting her. Also the brother is in the wedding, you’re kinda stuck. Just suck it up and be the bigger more mature person, and limit contact with her on your day.
Post # 8
I will agree with all PP and say that you kind of don’t have an option- you must invite her, or cause a huge family rift. I would also recommend defriending her, or blocking her from commenting on your facebook if you don’t want to “defriend” family. (I have a group of people who I know professionally who I accepted as friends so as not to be rude; however, they can’t see the majority of my statuses and they are unable to post comments on any.)
It’s very immature for her to be taking to facebook to air any issues she has with you, and at some point, it may be worth having a conversation with her (and her husband if they are “in on it” together). You’re stuck with them for life, so might as well try to make it a positive- or at least civilized- relationship.
Post # 9
Yes I have defriended her over facebook as soon as she made nasty comments and I also dont have fiances brother on facebook as they were the ones who made fun of me over a status. Thanks everyone for replies, still havent decided what to do.
Post # 10
You have to invite her. It would be EXTREMELY rude not to. Not only is it rude to not invite spouses, but she’s familiy and not inviting her would be a huge public slight. This would only lead to more drama and make you look like a b*tch.
I don’t know what was said on FB so I can’t tell you if it’s worth confronting them about it or not. Sometimes it’s better to just ignore other people’s immaturaty. However, I will say that your FI should be sticking up for you to his family. So maybe it’s time for him to step in.