- 3 years ago
I am in need of some real advice from people who have been in my shoes. FI and I have only been engaged for 2 months and ever since planning has commenced, things have taken a downhill turn. I’m not really sure what to do. This entire time, I’ve been the one researching venues for hours, driving hours to check out places, meet with wedding coordinators, countless phone calls, and emotionally invested. FI does not want to visit any venues at all, he says he doesn’t care. However, when I come up with two options that I really like, he doesn’t like either of them. I have checked out every venue in the Northeast and to be quite frank, I’m stressed and exhausted. After numerous arguments about him not caring, when really I DO want him to care, I stopped searching all together and put plans on hold. Now I’ve regretted not booking the place of my dreams so I revisted it and brought it up to FI and he said once again, “I don’t care, do whatever you want.” So I’m trying to book the place and talk to FI about it because if he really doesn’t care, I almost feel like he shouldn’t have an opinion. Once again, this sparked a fight, one where he actually slept on the couch last night (He’s never done that). At this point, I’m tired of the fighting and none of the wedding planning has been fun. I’ve exhausted all venues in the Northeast and I’m not really sure what to do. Do I stay perpetually engaged and never actually get married, or do I book the place of my dreams and hope he comes around to it?
Any advice that you all can give would be greatly appreciated. BTW, I’m not leaving him but I’m starting to think we just shouldn’t get married at all and just remain life partners without the title.