Post # 1
My older sister and I have never been close. She moved out of state when I was young, so I don’t see her often. We only talk on the phone when I call her. She works as a hair stylist part time out of her home. Last week she emailed me and asked if I had figured out how I wanted to do my hair and that she would love to do it. I have been going to my current stylist for the last 4 years who happens to be a close friend and my personal attendant. We had already discussed her doing my hair and helping out on the day of the wedding. I really want my friend to do my hair because we will be able to do a trial prior to the wedding and she knows what I like, but I don’t want to upset my sister and cause any more drama than she already provides. If you were in my situation, what would you do?
Post # 3
tough situation!! i’d tell your sis that while you’d kill to have her expertise, you ACTUALLY need her to do X, Y and Z on the wedding day and that those tasks will take priority and would be more special. Give her something that will make her feel honored and included. You could also tell her you wanted to treat HER to getting her hair done for a day alongside you and had set it up in advance as a special surprise, but are now telling her so she doesn’t expect to do your hair. It would be an extra expense for you, but I think it’s worth it to make sure you look the way you want that day.
Post # 4
Oy. I see your predicament.
I’d let her know that that’s awesome and you really appreciate the offer! But you want her to relax and enjoy herself without having to worry about work.
If she’s adamant (or you feel she would be), let her know that you’ve been planning for months to have your hair done by your stylist and would she be willing to do the bridal party and flower girls?