(Closed) Need some advice please!

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well, it’s not tacky or rude if someone offers to pick it up for you or if you are gifted cash you could certainly put it towards that expense. I don’t know how you would politely suggest that your guests pay for it.

It sounds like you should keep looking for a videographer. I would start by trying to identify exactly what it is about this videographer’s work that makes him worth $6k to you.

Post # 4
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If I were your family member/friend, yes I would find it a bit crazy if you asked me to chip in $6000 for a videographer.  I’m skipping one because of the prices, and my photographer is less than a 1/3 of that price tag (on a $25k turned $28k budget).  So even if I donated my wedding gift in advance in cash for this, I would think that the price is too high and you ought to find one more reasonably priced.  Also, although I wouldn’t personally be offended to be asked to chip in for the wedding, I know many people would find that tacky or rude.

I’d also caution you on spending such a large chunk of your budget early on if you don’t have the excess cash to wiggle, as it’s pretty easy to overspend in areas unless you’re very carefuly.  We’ve used up the 10% extra we built into our budget.

Post # 5
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Personally, I would think it was ridic if someone asked me for money to pay $6k for their wedding video. It seems extravagant, so you may not have much luck with that and some people will probably be offended. I think you should keep looking for something more in your budget


Post # 6
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Show your mom and his mom the videos that made you fall in love with the videographer and if they love it as much as you do, see if they’ll pitch in.  Anyone one else will think you are crazy 🙁  If it helps, my videographer costs about the same, and our payments are in thirds, with our final $2,000 due when we receive the finished video–which is 8 months after the wedding.  So we have time to save up the rest of the money.  Hopefully, your videographer payments will work the same way.

Post # 7
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Benavis1489:  I agree with the idea to see if the videographer you have your heart set on accepts payments. I’m sure they will work with you. Plus, don’t forget you can register for all the kitchen gadgets and bed linens, etc you want. That is one of the perks of having the big wedding in the first place, no?

Post # 8
996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Benavis1489:  I wouldn’t call it tacky to ask family–but not all guests


I’m sorry but in 60-70 years, it’s not going to matter if that video cost 6k or was shot by Grandma–you’ll be watching it for sentimental reasons–and the quality will not be that great because technology is always improving

I wouldn’t spend 6k on a videographer….I would spend it on a great trip, or something we really needed around the house–but that’s me, I don’t know your financial situation


But I do know that once you start planning it is inevitable that costs start creeping up–you keep on finding new things that you HAVE to have–and then 6 months later you may be kicking yourself for splurging on something like that

Post # 9
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it’s rude to ask family members to pay for something like that, you are perfectly capeable of finding more affordable options which fit into your budget.

Post # 10
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My own two cents, $6,000 for a videographer sounds insane!  What exactly about them do you love, is it the way they edit the video?  Or the actual shots they put together?  My first thought is, can they negotiate?  Can someone else film your wedding and these professionals edit so that you love the final product?  Will they lower their price if you only ask them to film the ceremony and like, an hour of the reception/dinner? 

I don’t see any issue with asking close family to help chip in, but I would never ask guests to chip in, even if you’re asking in lieu of a gift.  Good luck!!  🙂


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