Need some Bridesmaid Help!! PLEASE!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

@ashb10:  If she is that important to you, what is one more person in the wedding party really going to hurt?  Honestly, if I was that close to someone and I was given a responsibility other than a Bridesmaid, I’d still be a tad miffed.  But that could be just me.  Oh, and please don’t make her an “Honorary Bridesmaid”… Talk about a smack in the face!

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Make her a bridesmaid….and if you don’t do that let her enjoy your wedding as a guests without giving her some job to do.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@ashb10:  Honestly, adding one more bridesmaid won’t hurt at this point if you have a total of 12 people in the wedding party.

However, you could make her a person attendent (helps you with your dress, shoes, fluffs your dress out blah blah blah), she could also decorate and do a reading.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Don’t make her a personal attendant. If anything…a reading. All other “honors” will make her do the most epic eye-roll ever.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’ve gathered that this isn’t a ‘thing’ everywhere, but it is common here to have ‘personal attendants’. I had 2 girls as pa’s for my wedding.. they are there to help out during the day, my girls pinned corsages and picked up flowers for me, mostly they are just part of the day with you, they were in pictures, sat at a head table, were mentioned on the programs. Maybe a possibility unless this is totally unheard of where you are?

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I don’t think being a personal attendant is a great way to include someone. They are common in my circle, but that job kind of suck. I would ask her to be a BM, you already have 12 what is one more.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

honestly, I would be touched if asked to do anything for a friends weddings.  I have 5 honorary bridesmaids.  They will mostly just be regular wedding guests mentioned on the program, but I asked them to do something I know they are good at and would enjoy.  I asked a few of them to be greeters at the wedding because our ushers are super shy, one friend with a gorgeous voice to sing, and another who is studying interior design to design centerpieces.  I’m giving them all flowers and they will take pictures with me.  They aren’t required to spend money on any particular attire.  We are having a very small family only bridal party, and if we weren’t they would have all been asked.  Honestly, they are genuinely touched by the gesture.  I think it helps to not give something too time consuming during the wedding day.  Even the friends I asked to be greeters, they will help out before the ceremony, but have no responsibilities after the ceremony or at the reception other than to have fun as a guest.  I stressed that mainly I just want to recognize them and for them to take a professional photo with me.  

I wouldn’t worry about them complaining about being a bridesmaids.  Still a very small percentage of your wedding guests are getting recognized at all, and they should be happy about it.  If they aren’t, well then they should just deal   

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