Post # 1
Hi Ladies. So I never had dress regret. I bought my Kenneth Pool at a super duper discount over 1 year ago at a sample sale. Loved it then. Love it now. BUT it has ALWAYS been 2 (possibly 3) sizes too small. I had gone with the mentality “well, I have over a year to lose 20 pounds…no big deal…” Well, come 1 month to the wedding and the dress is NO WHERE near fitting. I even bought a corset conversion kit thinking that it would miraculously solve the problem. Took my dress to several tailors and seamstresses and most of them told me that it won’t look right even by adding the corset. The dress is a very form fitting trumpet, and I’ll just look like a disproportionate sausage. Here is the model pic for reference (no idea why her boobs are falling out…but it doesn’t do that in real life, lol.)
Now I’m scrambling to find another dress that doesn’t make me self-conscious and fits me. Went to a bunch of bridal shops with a larger sample section, and I fell in love with another dress. HOWEVER, the new dress is nothing like what I want. I didn’t want rouching or pick-ups. And this dress has both! Do I buy the new dress? It’s actually MORE $ than my original dress! UGH. Or do I pay $$$ to alter my original dress and just HOPE the tailors/seamstresses are wrong about making me look weird???
Post # 3
It really doesn’t matter what you thought you wanted at one point.
It matters what ACTUALLY like on you, & it seems like you like the new one, & won’t be NEAR as freaked out about it fitting.
My dress was nothing that I thought I wanted, but I loved it & it worked for me.
Post # 4
I voted to buy the new dress because not only will your dress not look right, I’m betting it would be pretty uncomfortable too. You said you love the new dress, so if it fits and its in budget, I definitely think you should get it.
Even if its not what you imagined yourself in, its not like you have months to dwell on the dress and develop the dreaded dress regret. Do you have a photo of yourself in it that we can see?
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Post # 6
@BlondeMissMolly: Oh believe me, I agree with you and that’s why the internal struggle here. I thought I had the perfect dress. And then I can’t get it to fit! I have tried on similar styles as my original dress (in my size obviously) but none of them look good on me. And thank you for the links, but unfortunately, I do need something more formal because we are having a relatively large church wedding followed by a formal reception/dinner.
Ugh. This is sooo tough! And @lil_possum: is correct that I don’t have the luxury of flipping back and forth.
@MrsSkeletonKey: The funny thing about the new dress is that it’s amazingly flattering. All those features that I hate…well, it actually hides all my flaws and accentuates my goods. Lol!
Keep the votes coming! Welcome to any more comments!
Post # 7
So what if you didn’t originally like pickups and rouching! If you love the new dress on you, then it’s perfect. Trying to fit into something that’s multiple sizes too small is a bad idea. No amount of tweaking and sucking-it-in is going to change the look that goes with specific sizing patterns. (Now I just have to accept my own advice and get rid of my old, thin jeans…)
Post # 8
@Bazingau: I really hated corset backs and then I put one on an BOOM! I never went back.
Buy the new dress. You don’t want to look back at your pictures and see a sausage (although I’m 100% sure you won’t look like one )
Post # 9
I’m not a seamstress but if you went to several and they all told you the same thing, I’d assume they know what they’re talking about, they’re the professionals in this area. I’d probably not want to risk it by having one attempt to altar it and still not look right.
I’d go with the new one– even if it’s not what you imagined yourself in, you tried it on and loved it and found it flattering!
Good luck with whatever you decide!
Post # 10
If you can afford it, I would buy a new dress- one that you can see looks amazing as it is.
I ordered my dress 6 months ago, from a sample that fit me perfectly. It was very plain and nothing like I had dreamed, but I knew it would flatter my plus size curves.
6 weeks ago my dress arrived and it was wrong. It didnt fit. Their fault, not mine. I was freaking out but they assured me they had time to make a new one.
last week they called to say my new dress was ready. It didnt fit. AGAIN. The owner blamed the factory, the seamstress, anyone. She was full of excuses but no solutions. 2.5 weeks from my wedding and I had no dress. It couldn’t even be altered because of the dodgy sewing.
I spent two days crying, and despairing before my mum and I took a trip to the closest city and shopped until I found another dress. THE dress. Princess skirt, sparkles- everything I had dreamed. And it was $600 less than the original dress. Perhaps it was meant to be?!
So my advice would be, don’t chance the alterations if you don’t have the time. Find a new dream dress… Maybe it will be better than the first.
best wishes 🙂
Post # 11
I’d also advise the OP to go check out a place that has Maggie Sottero samples, as they’re known for being excellent for girls with a bit of curve.
Or in fact any store with lots of samples. I wouldn’t advise you to just buy that rouched dress just yet. It seems to me that in the back of your mind you would not be complelely happy with that dress the way you are feeling at the moment. The last thing you need is for that doubt to creep in.
At least go and try at least a few more samples – including some that are more similar to your original dress – and then go and make your decision.
Post # 12
@Bazingau: Well you definitely got yourself in a pickle that’s for sure.
It sounds like your first dress won’t work at all, so really cut your loss. If you love this new dress then get it if you can afford it. Or try consignment stores, or bridal stores having an off the rack sale.
I bought my dress about 4 months before the wedding off the rack after a dress shoping fiasco. (3 dresses…etc etc) And I absolutely loved it. You have to love it, don’t settle, keep looking. But if you love this other dress who cares if its nothing that you thought you wanted, if it makes you feel good in it that’s what matters!
Post # 13
I’m getting married NEXT weekend and I’m going to try on new dresses tomorrow. I’m keeping my dress for the ceremony, but looking for a new reception gown. I’m trying a consignment shop! They have GORGEOUS dresses for the best prices! Give it a try 🙂
Post # 14
I would buy a dress that fits and makes you feel good…perhaps you could see the too small one you already have.
Post # 15
@Bazingau: I’d try the alterations first.
Post # 16
If you got your original dress at a super discounted rate, I say that you go ahead and get another dress off the rack that you’ll love. A drop waist with ruching at the midsection and corset back looks good on nearly anyone. Good luck!