Post # 1
Ok so I don’t have a ring yet (proposal is forthcoming according to SO). But I am suppose to be getting a rough plan together for location, budget, photog. I asked a friend of mine on Facebook about the hall she had her wedding at. had was a second shooter photographer at the wedding and the place was really pretty and affordable.
Anyways I asked about price info since she knows the owner of the Place. Anyways so didn’t say it was for a wedding, just asked about prices for an event and she asked what type so I elaborated and said I was just getting estimates for a year or more awDeluge he got really excited and said ” I can helphelp help with decor land stuff. I can even do your photography! Let me do your photography please! I’ll do it for free”
Now she and her daughter just started a photog business a month or so ago, and while they have potential on their work, it’s noty style. I am extremely picky when it comes to photography especially for an event like my wedding. This may come from the fact that I’ve done a few weddings as photographer.
My problem is this: She is a really nice woman and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. How do I go about telling her that I don’t think I will use her. I told her we aren’t quite looking at phlotographers yet, but unless her style changes drastically in the next year or so I don’t know if I can tell her yes. I know photography style can change a lot in a year, but these are my wedding photos, I don’t want to run the risk not loving them. Help bees!
Post # 3
Omg sorry for typos on my phone.
Post # 4
It’ll be worse if you string her along. Just be honest up front. She knows that you know she’s only been doing this for a month – it’s perfectly reasonable for you to just say you’d rather hire someone with a little more experience for an event as important as your wedding. Maybe offer to let her take a crack at some engagement pictures for practice/portfolio, and if you don’t like them get another session done with whoever you hire for your wedding; you can tell her you did them just to get to know your wedding photographer better.
Post # 5
I would just tell her that you are not even engaged so you cant make plans at the moment but you will let her know if you would like her to when the time comes, and thank her for being so generous.
Post # 6
Doesn’t being a nice person suck sometimes! be honest but in a kind Way. There are so many things an experienced wedding photographer will bring to your wedding beyond just the style you want! I’ve shot over 100 weddings now and theres not too much I can’t anticipate/ troubleshoot. If photography is a real priority to you, get who you want. Just tell her thanks but no thanks. There’s no quicker way to lose a friend than to do business with them especially when you don’t want to!! Good luck!
Post # 7
+1 to LB – If photos are important to you and it sounds like they are. You will want to hire an experience pro. Someone just starting out doesn’t fall into this category. The fact she is begging you to let her shoot it for free tells you something.
This is what I would tell her: “Hi Photog, I really appreciate your generous offer but I already have my heart set on XXX who I love their style and I know they have a lot of experience. I’m not saying you wouldn’t provide me with fabulous photos but I just feel comfortable with someone with a few more weddings under their belt. I would love for you to take our eng photos though or possibly bridal portraits.
Chances are they are not going to improve that much in a year and you need to hire someone who you LOVE their work now. Not hope they get better. It will only leed to disappointment and possible ruining the friendship.