Post # 1
I’m going to try and make this as short and sweet as possilbe… I’m sure this topic has been talked about numerous times before but I just need some good vibes/words from my bee buds. It seems like every other day a new “friend” of mine on FB/IG/Twitter is newly engaged/getting married/or announcing a baby… I’m going to be 29 in July and I have none of those…not complaining, just a little down about it. I moved from Ohio to Georgia after 6 weeks of talking to my current SO over 2 years ago which I do not hold against him…I just thought things MIGHT move a little quicker. I have a great time with him and love him to death, but I cant help but get a little jealous everytime I see something new pop up. I used to mention it (before I found out about this website of course) and try not to get aggrivated, I love him and would never want him to feel preasured…but sometimes I cant help but get sad. When I joined this website it definitely helped see that I am not the only one going through constant up and downs so I havent been bringing it to my SO’s attention (which I think helps). He actually brought up the ring I want this weekend…then just cut off the conversation…so I have a tiny smidge of hope, but still even last night I saw 2 new engagements….ahhhhh hahaha I try not to take it so seriously and just enjoy this single time with my SO but when is it my turn??
Post # 2
I am a little younger than you (and perhaps see less engagemennts/marriages/babies via facebook) but I think I understand how you feel. I just want it to be my turn already! (after 4+ years with my SO) Even here it seems like tons of bees are getting engaged lately.
I know waiting can feel like a giant pain in the ass sometimes. I wonder if it’s because we don’t know when it’s happening, or that we aren’t in control of this major aspect of our lives- I mean we are in that it’s a decision you make together to get married, but in the waiting for him to ask you bit.
It seems like you’re on the same page, and I hope it’ll happen soon for you!
Post # 5
I actually was sort of late in getting married, for my social group. Most of my high school friends are married, several have an entire brood of children, and I’m only 27!
Post # 3
KaitlynBrooke: I know the feeling. SO and I have talked about it and definitely see marriage and kids in our future, but when? Well who flippin knows cant get a timeline out of that one.
We just moved in together so I know it is a step in the right direction, but this weekend one of my good friends got engaged (yay!) and then i tell him and he was like “ohh no – i dont like” and i asked why and replied “you know why” he was smiling but it still kind of upset me. Just reminded me we are on two different pages about timelines i guess. I was hoping within the next year – which could still be a huge possibility, but i suppose it was like “oh right, yeah you dont think about it every day like I do” lol
Logically i am not mad at him. I totally get it – its only been 3 years, we JUST moved in together, we dont have a whole lot on savings, but then emotionally im like I already KNOW i want to marry you and would do it tomorrow if you asked, kinda hurts to think they dont feel the same. BUT then we have to remind ourselves of all the wonderful things they do for us and how they prove that they love us and want to marry us – just not yet -____- haha
Post # 4
KaitlynBrooke: I am with you girl. This last holiday season was brutal with all of the FB engagement updates. I almost had to quit. And of course my cousin, who was my waiting buddy, got engaged the weekend of my birthday. I cried. I am beyond ready and my BF is just not quite there yet. Some days I’m okay with it and other days I get full of self pity and feel like it is never going to happen. I feel like this site might be making me a little bit more crazy, but it is also awesome to find that there are other girls out there feeling the exact same way that I do. Hang in there! Hopefully our wait will end soon!
Post # 7
Hey i was in your shoes earlier this year and last year. his sister got engaged to a guy she had been dating for 6 mths and we had been together for a year. when the sister got engaged in january, i freaking lost it(poor guy). little did i know he had ordered the ring in december and it was being made. 😀 dont lose hope.
Post # 6
plum_pudding: Trilly: leisha606: lizzymaejunebug:
Thank you ladies!! I really needed that 🙂 It’s really helpful to know that I am not the only one who feel like! I’m so glad I found a board to post where females can help each other out because Lord knows if I had to discuss this stuff with my SO he would think I was crazy 🙂 I know we all have to just let some things go, sit back, and enjoy our “single” times… but its just so hard sometimes lol. Thanks again ladies, I really appreciate your kind words and support!!!