Need some help :/

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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613 posts
Busy bee

@tigerallie:  Hmmm Im on the fence. Has he made advances to you? does he go out of his way to talk to you? if so def yes say somthing to SO. I would more just make your SO aware of how you feel toward this guy.

Good luck I cant wait to get out of a complex! and you house hunting is just around the corner hang on!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

@tigerallie:  Hi bee!

UGH I’ve totally dealt with creepy neighbor men.  I think I need more details to give you my advice lol.

1)  You don’t mention if this creepy guy ever talks to you….is he giving off a creepy vibe or trying to initiate a conversation?

2)  Are you talking about saying something to your SO or creepy neighbor guy?

Post # 6
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Busy bee

When I was living alone in an apartment, I’d call someone to talk to while I took my dog out at night or if I had to park away from and walk a ways to my bulding. Just a girlfriend ususally, sometimes I’d take the opportunity to catch up with my parents. In a pinch I’d fake talk to someone. I don’t enjoy talking on the phone, but it definitely makes me less approachable, and if you’re not actually engrossed in the conversation you can still keep your wits about you.

I don’t assume the worst, some people are just a little off, but I definitely don’t make it easy for someone to continue interacting with me in a way that makes me uncomfortable.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@tigerallie:  I’d normally advise you not to confront Creepy Man, but since he keeps approaching you, perhaps you need to say something. Perhaps a bit of a fib? “I’m sorry, but my fiance is EXTREMELY possessive, and he and I have made a policy not to talk to opposite-gender neighbors when we’re alone. So I’m going to have to ask you not to talk to me unless my fiance is present.”

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

@tigerallie:  I think it’s good that your SO is in the know…just in case! 

I’m EXTRA cautious around men of the opposite sex and not as trusting as some other bees would be lol. I’ve read a lot of articles that say that when your gut starts sending off the ‘creepy’ red flag to your brain, it’s your intuition letting you know not to trust something.  The stats out there are high, like 8 out of 10 women felt very creeped out or on alert by an individual before being attacked.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

@tigerallie:  Tigger, I have to agree with both veryberry and lilxlil. Most women attacked by an acquaintance report knowing something was “off”. Get some pepper spray. Also Lil makes a good point, extremely jealous boyfriend who you just happen to be on the phone with might make you seem less defenseless in his eyes. I’d advise getting the pepper spray before the confrontation. Or as we do in South, just renew your carry permit. 

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Post # 12
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Helper bee

@tigerallie:  I have been holding on to the “my precious” pic for a year – when we first discussed marriage. SO has never see it so I’m excited to have a place to use it!

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