Post # 1
Not too sure where to start, but me and my ex were together for 2 years, known eachother for 5. Best time of my life. We broke up about 5 months ago, the reason we broke up is only because we were so negative to eachother all the time and arguing, and while we were apart we have both done things we regret, and slept around a little, and I know it’s really hypocritical but I can’t get over my feelings and her sleeping around always pops into my head. I know some will say an ex is an ex for a reason, but I love her still. And she loves me. And another thing is, were starting off as friends. I’ve told her I can NOT be friends and see other people, as that’s way to hard, so we have agreed to not sleep with anyone else to try make us work, but she’s still going to see the people she has slept with.. because they’re her good friends. Which is fair enough because me and her aren’t together so I don’t really have a say, but I can do the same and go see whoever whenever. She’s the most lovely, loyal girl I’ve ever met and I want her back. But will it work? How do I get over the fact she’s slept around? Is it fair enough to start as friends? What do I do? She makes me so happy, I don’t wanna lose her but it’s hard. Thanks in advance.
Post # 2
You said she is loyal in your OP but she slept around? You can’t sleep around and be loyal. The relationship sounds like a total mess.
My advice is you move on, if you truly love someone you don’t sleep around.
Post # 3
I assume the sleeping around was after you broke up. How do you get over it? You just do. You need to accept that he make choices she was perfectly allowed to make and her being with others would not affect your relationship if you do get back together.
but really, instead of talking to us talk to her. We don’t know what she wants so can’t help.
Post # 4
railroaderwifeyxo : The sleeping around was after we broke up.
Post # 5
“Best time of my life… the reason we broke up is only because we were so negative to eachother all the time and arguing”
You see what you wrote. You argued and were negative to each other all of the time. How is that the best time of your life.
move on even though it hurts. Find someone who lifts you up.
Post # 6
I’m agreeing with some of the others.
It doesn’t sound like the healthiest of relationships. Even though you’re not together again there is already issues.
It doesn’t sound like there is anything to get over, since she was single at the time. I’d even be inclined to say you shouldn’t be friends right now as there are still left over emotions from the last time you dated and it all sounds a bit blurry.
Be friends when you’re in the right place to be just that. Good luck!!