(Closed) Need some help with a friend please

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Shonzilla:  Usually I don’t recommend messages or e-mails, but if she is ignoring your calls perhaps just explain yourself in a message, which is sounds like you have already done. Not much more you can do. She is being rather childish about it, so I wouldn’t swell on this too much. Just say what you need to and move on from the situation. If she chooses to put her big girl panties on and discuss it with you like an adult, great. If not, then it’s her own loss.

Post # 5
502 posts
Busy bee

Was what you said hurtful enough for her to refuse contact, do you think? I agree with pp, send a message that gives her time to think it over. Maybe what she heard was hurtful enough to her that she thinks she’s taking the high road by not fighting about it and just letting you be a part of her past.

Post # 7
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Maybe like you said she’s just enjoying making a big deal out of it. Perhaps consider just not getting wrapped up in the whole affair. Send her a card congratuating her on her wedding and make it personal and heart felt…..cards say you care, emails say, ‘I had five minutes at lunch and can’t really be bothered.’ Then the ball is in her court.

Post # 8
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Shonzilla:  I am confused by your post and like we are missing information. Especially this bit

“I was speaking to a mutual friend who has now told her what I said (which was not meant to be mean but sounds like it is).”

What did you say that was supposedly mean?


Post # 9
9207 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@j_jaye:  +1 and in my opinion you should congratulate both the bride and the groom at her wedding. And if you said some mean things behind her back no wonder she’s distant.

Post # 10
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@j_jaye:  yeah, that post is confusing to me too.

Post # 11
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Have you sent her an appology for what you said? If you have, leave it alone. Not a “Well here’s what I meant, so it wasn’t really an insult” comment a legitimate “I am so sorry I said _______ to _____. I obviously didn’t mean it, I was just in a really shitty mood that day, and I’m sorry I involved you in it.”

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