Post # 1
I need some input from you all. I’ve been trying to keep cool lately with this engagement stuff and my ever strengthening intuition on the subject, but the other night just topped it and I need some opinionsinput:
It was my parents’ 37th wedding anniversary on Wednesday night. My family went to visit them and it was great. Somehow we got on the subject of money, and how my brother had a hard time paying for our younger brothers wedding. Anyhoo, My b/f and I were chatting on the side, and he said something about how he paid off his first year of college. I asked him – “What?? Please tell me you’re joking, and that all of your schooling is paid off” (he’s been out of college for a long time, it just took a while to pay it all off). He replied, saying – “Oh ya, I do. I was just joking. I have other things to pay off now”. And he kind of looked at me funny as he sipped his beer. I asked what he needed to pay off now, and he said – “Stuff. Stuff and things”. Usually when we talk about our future our code word for it is “stuff and things” (again, he gave me a funny look). Then later in the night we were joking around and being playful in the kitchen with my family, and he said something about how he had some secrets and that he can’t tell me.
I don’t know, it was just weird. Do you think i’m jumping to conclusions? Do you really think a guy would drop hints like that?? That night really made me start to wonder if he had a ring already, or if he was going to propose soon. Thoughts??
Post # 3
It depends. Does he usually joke about things like this? I don’t know why else he would say he has secrets that he can’t tell you- unless maybe he bought you a nice gift or is planning a trip or something…
Post # 4
No, he doesn’t joke about money. He used to have some debt but he has it all paid off. He never jokes about our future, which is why I was wondering all of this stuff.
He was acting weird just before we went to my parents house as well. He said – “You know what we have to do this weekend??!” And I said – “Don’t ask me that cuz you know how my imagination works, lol”. He said to take a guess, and I refused. So he said – “Well, there are three things we need to do. One, we gotta go look at some cars. Two, we gotta take out the recycling stuff on our balcony. And Three… I can’t remember number three, hahaha. What was your imagination telling you that we should do?” I told him – “You know very well what my imagination would do”. After that we arrived at my parents house.
The whole night was just strange.
Post # 5
I dunno, I can’t figure it out . . . I’d be jumping to the same conclusion as you though 🙂
Post # 6
Oh yeah, my BF jokes like that all the time. Last weekend I was out of town and when I got home he told me he discovered this new sushi place downtown. I asked him why he was downtown (we have a tiny downtown, not one you’d go to without a specific thing in mind) he replied “I was doing….STUFF” with a funny look. That really could only mean one thing. He also constantly makes references to not spending money on stuff now because he has “priorities” cue funny look.
I’m taking them as what they’re meant to be: subtle (or maybe not so subtle) reassurances that things are, in fact, in motion. He knows I’m concerned about it so I think it’s sweet that he goes out of his way to make sure I know he’s making progress.
Sounds like your man is doing the same thing. 🙂
Post # 7
I agree with @lezlers – it sounds promising to me. Just try not to think about it too too much, and practice your surprised face
Post # 8
Hard to say, but I agree with Keep us posted!!
Post # 9
Yeah I agree with PP, probably to assure you things are in motion.
Post # 10
…Just a little update…
The other night my b/f and I were out for a walk and chatting. One thing led to another and we’re talking about our future (marriage, etc). I really tried to avoid it, but he brought it up himself. Regarding a proposal, he said that he’s “working on it” (which I’ve heard before… Like, MONTHS ago). I asked him what he meant because he has used that excuse before and I wanted an explaination this time. He said that I ‘knew what it meant’, and that when he does it (propose), I’d be the third in line to know. Wait… THIRD?? He said that he’d ask my dad, then call his parents on the same day (which leads me to believe that he might actually propose on the same day). Then he said that “it’s not going to happen within the timeline I have in my head”. He has NO CLUE what the timeline in my head is because I’ve never told him (It’s August 31st). He completely admitted to throwing me off at times by saying that he wanted a new TV for example, or buying expensive things for himself. I replied by saying that it is very difficult to be sneaky around me, and I know when something’s up. He pretty much admitted that he was up to something, but the thing that threw me off was the whole timeline thing! Do you think he’s throwing me off again? Or do you think he’s just saying these things to keep me happy for a while?
Then this afternoon we went for a hike. Suddenly he starts talking about our future kids and how we’d do all these fun outdoor activities. We’ve talked about our future children before, but lately he keeps bringing it up on his own when I’m trying my hardest to avoid it!
I really don’t know what to think about these conversations. Opinions??
Post # 11
It does sound like he is very much thinking about it quite heavily and he is hinting as well!
Hopefully he gets around to it REAL soon!
Post # 12
Yeah I would say he is hinting for sure. I tend to believe that most guys don’t say things about it to “keep you around” unless you’re putting the pressure on. It seems you’re playing it pretty cool so I’d think it is more of a “hey I am thinking about it and working toward the goal”. Also, I think guys are for some reason scared we might say no, so they drop hints so you can come full circle in your mind that this is what you want to. Boys are silly 🙂