Need some perspective!

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015


BrynRyley:  Why don’t you bring it up casually “would you want to go look at rings so we can get an idea of what we both like?”. His response should give you an idea of what he’s thinking.

Post # 3
3512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

BrynRyley:  You need to talk to your SO. Only he knows why he’s not proposing. 

It may be that he’s planning something special. It could also be that he doesn’t want to marry you and is just talking about marriage to appease you. It could be something in the middle, you need to talk to him about it.

Post # 4
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2025

BrynRyley:  I think “what’s the hold up” should be directed towards him 🙂 

Every guy is different – my FI and I went looking at rings about 5-6 months after we started dating, and even after he bought the ring, he still waited another 5 months to propose lol he planned out a special date day for us (which took a lot of logistics plannjng), and I couldn’t have been happier!

So if you’d really like to know, I would consider asking him directly. Men think differently than we do, and if he’s the guy for you, you’ll have to trust that he’s doing his best!

Post # 6
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I was in the same situation. We were at just under the 3yr point, and had been going to a lot of weddings. I knew marriage was on the table, as we had “the talk” but just didn’t know when it would happen. I definitely caught the marriage flu, and started to drive myself crazy. I brought it up a bunch, and he told me that he was going to do it, but wanted to when he felt ready, and not just because he knew I was growing impatient.

So, I stopped bringing it up, and 4 months later he proposed. I was quite shocked as I didn’t even think it was going to happen that year.

I’m not really sure what my advice is, just that you’re not alone. Just talk to him, see where he stands, and then let it be.

Post # 7
105 posts
Blushing bee

BrynRyley:  You’re definitely not crazy! My SO and I have been together a shorter time than you – 1.5 years .. he took me to look at rings in December last year and I picked one out .. Still waiting! I’m being as patient as possible 🙂

Post # 8
34 posts

I’m in basically the same boat as you.. Best of luck to you!

Post # 9
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If you are getting inpatient maybe asking him for a timeline, when he wants to get engaged, when he wants to get married, when he wants to start having kids. Disscuss your wishes and desires. Sounds like you are on the right track and hes going to do it soon.

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