Post # 1
FI and I go to church with his mom but we are not actively involved or anything. FI wants the pastor of the church to marry us. I think that would be great too but now I’m stuck with how to word this email I want to send to him. I’m not sure if he even marries people… Not all pastors do, right? How do I got about asking if he is willing to marry us if I’m not even sure if he does that? I’m also not sure how to address him… Mr. ______, Pastor ________ (last name or first name??).. I feel totally clueless so can someone help?
Post # 3
My parents church always speaks about the pastor as Pastor Brad, but everyone calls him Brad to his face. Every other church I’ve gone to, I’ve called them by their first name. If you’re worried about it though, Pastor Firstname should be appropriate.
Post # 4
@s2bmrscook: Thanks! Any suggestions on how to actually word asking him about marrying us? I’m at a loss.. Lol
Post # 5
We contacted the Pastor of FI’s mother’s church by calling him instead of an email. We had only met him previously, for FI’s mother’s funeral arrangments last year. We are not members of the church but I thought it would be a nice way to honor her as she was always wonderful to my daughter and me. He was very happy to be asked to marry us.
We refer to him as Pastor Lastname.
Post # 6
What denomination of church is it? I know a lot of catholics that refer to their pastors as priests…
We call our pastor Brother “Insert Name Here”
Post # 7
I would just call the church office, honestly.
Post # 8
I would first ask your FI’s mom what the deal is with his title, it varies church by church. Secondly, I would call (instead of emailing him)…or, just wait until you see him in church next week and ask when he might have a minute to chat, chances are, he’ll take you aside after the service.
Post # 9
Call and ask what the process is for getting married in the church.
Post # 10
@alotlikelove: Pastor Firstname, FH and I recently got engaged. We are planning on having our wedding around (insert date here). We would be honored if you would perform our ceremony. When would we be able to schedule a time to sit down and talk to you about the requirements to have you marry us?