Post # 1
Ok Bee’s I need some reassurance and some advice because I’m feeling that my wedding might be a little boring..
My wedding is taking place at a country club that is shady and appropriate for our outdoor summer garden wedding so I’m not having doubts about the venue, just everything else. Basically we will have a short ceremony that will include a few select passages from the bible as well as our own personal vows and a rose ceremony. Following the ceremony we will have a 1 hour cocktail hour with plenty of HD’s while Mr.Chocolate Apple and I take our pictures. Then dinner will be served and it will be a full service dinner so basically no buffets. Lastly after dinner we will have our first dance then we plan on cutting the cake and that’s basically it. We will have decorations and all that kind of stuff but we aren’t having any dancing or alcohol because we are having a VERY small wedding, about 40 people including us and most of those people will not dance so it’s a waste of money to pay for a DJ if it will just be Me and Mr. Chocolate Apple dancing. We also chose not to have alcohol because one, my fiance and I will be 19 and 20 when we get married so we are underage and even if we weren’t, there are some guests that are recovering alcoholics so we don’t feel it would be appropriate to have alochol right infront of their noses.
Is my wedding going to be boring? I’m not having a ton of people come so for the amount coming do you think what we have planning is appropriate? If not what else can I add? I know that I don’t want a photobooth or any board games/lawn games but is there anything else I could add to our wedding that might spice things up?
Post # 3
If the small group you are having knows each other and will talk then I think you will be fine but if you are having a lot of couples from different places that don’t know anyone else, you may need to do something to break the tension. What about using an ipod instead of a dj so people can dance if they want without you spending money?
Post # 4
I have the same anxiety about having a boring wedding. I ended up saying yes to getting a DJ though. I am so worried though that no one will dance and that’s my biggest fear. We are also not doing anything like a garter toss or special dances beyone a first dance.
Maybe you could do something fun that can get people talking and socializing. I have been looking at doing mad libs put out on the tables and having guests fill them out. They are funny and people can read them to each other and that can get people talking/loosening up as well. Also, I know you said you don’t want a photobooth, but I will say I’ve heard from people that they are always a big hit. Especially, if you have younger people there you could try and do a DIY photo booth. Set up a sheet and hand made props. (Like the mustache on a stick, haha!) and I think I’ve seen people just have someone manning a camera or maybe you could even just set out throw away cameras and develop the film later on???? Little things like this could just keep people mingling and help, so people aren’t just sitting their staring at eachother! 🙂
Oh, another one I’ve seen is napkins with fun trivia facts about the bride and groom. Or you could put it out at the tables. Maybe even like a multiple choice thing where you guess what the answer is. I’ve seen this done at showers too, of course. But when I saw the napkins I thought it was cute to do at a reception.
Post # 5
what about adding a little entertainment to your cocktail hour. what about a guitarist or accordian player. you could even do a cupcake station or something. it sounds like all you need is a little something playful to make it pop. i think your wedding sounds lovely.
Post # 6
If you can’t afford a DJ I second the idea of the ipod at least for background music or hiring a single musician. Also if possible I would have a combination of alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks. Unless it is for religious reasons it comes across strange to have a dry wedding from a guests perspective- especially if the wedding is at night. If you are really against the alcohol make a cute signature drink like a mix your own arnold palmer with the lemonade and iced tea served in separate drink dispensers.
Also are you sure that no one will dance? I think many people expect music at a wedding since it is a big celebration even if it is a small crowd. I think you can get away with skipping the first dance but not having music seems like something you might regret in the long term.
Best of luck!
Post # 7
A wedding blogger that I used to read had a magician during the cocktail hour. Sounds like it was a huge hit for both kids and adults! Here’s a post on it if you want to read more: http://allconsumedbride.blogspot.com/2010/06/wed-recap-uh-ohits-magic.html
Post # 8
First, your avatar is amazing.
I think the suggestion of an iPod for some background music is a good one. Do you want to do maybe a slideshow or something like the newly wed game?
Post # 9
What about some party games? With 40 people you can totally play. People get into stuff like that.
Post # 10
I’d incorporate a few distractions throughout the night, but my mom’s point of view is that people should be conversing. A toast or two (maybe with sparkling grape juice), maybe a trivia game… My reception music is all on an iTunes playlist on my laptop.
Think of what a celebration means to you, and incorporate that sort of thing. For me, it’s Snoopy Dancing, upbeat music, silliness, and explosions (we’re having fireworks afterwards – there’s a huge fireworks outlet on the way back from the airport.)