Post # 1
Hi guys! My mom is getting remarried and needs help figuring out a way to incorporate her oldest brother. Since her father passed away a few years ago, she feels like it would be nice to include him in her ceremony. The problem? The wedding ceremony is going to be quite informal and won’t have a processional. I’m having a hard time coming up with ideas to incorporate him, and would appreciate some advice. Thanks!
Post # 3
@primp: Is she going to have any readings at the ceremony? Maybe he could give a reading.
When FI’s father remarried he had FI give one reading and his wife’s brother give another. They had no processional and no wedding party.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
What are other family members doing? Like instead of the processional, who else is doing what? That might give us a better idea of what he could do. 🙂 He could be her witness if they are getting married by a JoP.
Post # 5
What about him getting ordained and performing the ceremony for her and FH? I am an encore bride and wanted to include each of my children, so my daughter will be my Lady of Honour, my youngest son will be walking me down the aisle, and my oldest son will be performing the ceremony. She could also have him walk her to her FH.
Post # 6
Great ideas! She has been dating this guy for a few years now, they just got engaged over a month ago, and they are getting married the first weekend in March. Yikes! I’m not sure exactly what is going on as far as the ceremony goes. From my understanding (it’s hard to get details out of her, only demands!!), they are going to be greeting guests together, there will be a super brief ceremony, and then dinner. I’ll definitely mention the reading to her and see if she wants to fit that in.
Post # 7
a special reading would be nice, or he could offer the first (only?) toast if there is to be one. he could officiate, if that fits into their beliefs and plans…and if they’re not doing it in CT, where online ministers aren’t recognized in most cases.
he could be the second person she dances with, after her new husband, if there will be dancing. not a father/daughter dance of course, but if they chose a song meaningful to them both this could work nicely. though i know with my first wedding, i declined this idea as i felt only my dad could fill those shoes – plus i have three brothers, all equally important to me, and didn’t want the others to feel slighted. everyone is different though, and she may like this idea.