Post # 1
It’ll end up being the same weekend as my future niece’s first birthday. Is this really bad?
Some back story…I just learned that I was accepted into the Masters program of my dreams but that I have school the same weekend that i had planned on having my wedding. I want to push it back a week but it’ll then be the same week as my future niece’s first birthday (birthday on the Thursday, wedding on the Saturday).
The mom is my FI’s sis and although we have a good relationship now, I wasn’t always her favorite person (she’s VERY protective of her brother). She also really enjoys being the center of attention (not abad thing b/c so do I LOL) and I know she’ll like to have a big party for her daughter. I would totally have a cake at the wedding for her and we could sing and everything but that may not be enough.
Should I miss school and leave it on the original date or change it? If we talk to my Future Sister-In-Law about it, should it be me, my Fiance or us both together?
I know it’s crazy but I have LOTS of anxiety over this! LOL
Post # 3
I would say that you and your Fiance should talk to her about it.
Post # 4
@BrewCityBRIDE2014: I would talk to him about it. You could always offer to get her a small cake, but if you are having the wedding near her she can always have it the following day and everyone is already in town.
Post # 5
Ok. It has been awhile since my children were 1 but a 1 year olds party in my world doesn’t trump a wedding. It is a small affair with a few close friends and relatives ON the actual day of the birthday. I would never feel slighted if a relative schedules a wedding the weekend after even without an important reason like you have. But maybe this is different regionally or culturally.
However, to be polite, I would discuss it with the family and see if it could just be a wonderful party weekend, especially since it seems you are open to sharing your event weekend with the 1 year old. What about baby bday event didn’t prior to or after rehearsal or during Sunday brunch.
Post # 6
@BrewCityBRIDE2014: It’s not the date of her actual birthday so I don’t see a problem. Birthday Thursday, wedding Saturday, party Sunday. In fact if she wants a big party, a bonus might be that other relatives can attend because they’ll be in town for the wedding.
Post # 7
@Stoich: Believe me I don’t think a First Birthday trumps a wedding either but my Fiance has 6 sisters who can be easily pissed off so I tend to be cautious on assuming that they’ll have the same opinion as I do.
I like the idea of doing a cake at the rehearsal dinner. She can also do the party on Sunday after our wedding.
I think we’ll chat with her but I don’t think I’m going to give up on moving it even if she is miffed about it because well I kind of think it’s ridiculous that she would be.
Post # 8
I agree with the other ladies having a baby doesn’t mean you own the rights to ever having an event on that weekend however, if it were me I would probably ask her opinion just because I would hate to cause drama. I also think what someone mentioned was a good idea at the rehearsal dinner having a cake and sing happy b-day no need to do it AT your wedding.
Post # 9
@BrewCityBRIDE2014: keep your wedding day! It’s just a toddler’s birthday party. And it’s not even on the same day. I don’t see the conflict of interest here. Am I missing something? Then again maybe you shouldn’t have it on 2/15 either. That’s MY birthday!