- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Hi- I’m a regular poster, but wanted to post this under a new name. My Fiance is emotionally abusive and I know that it’s finally time for me to leave. I’m usually the type of person who has a plan, but I feel paralyzed…
We’ve had an on again, off again relationship for many years. In the beginning, he was my best friend and the person I trusted most. But that changed. He started taking me for granted and doing cruel things that seemed really out of character. We had spent some time apart before, but found our way back together. We have been together for 2 years, engaged 1. And it had been wonderful. I felt like we had both really matured and conquered our past issues.
Until recently, he just flipped out on me. He started being really mean and dismissive and blaming a lot of his own issues on me. He confessed that he was in therapy for his issues. I think that he has a mental illness and also several family issues. I have been there for him through a lot of it because I love him.
He also confessed that he lied about some financial matters, including saving for our wedding. We started therapy together and it seemed like things were going well. We were communicating better and he was being his sweet self again.
I have my own issue of becoming unemployed with no income. We had talked about this and I had a plan for myself. I was still going to contribute to our household, but I did need a little financial support from him and also some emotional support.
My last day of work, he e-mailed to say how proud of me he was and that he was there for me and loved me. The next day, my first day of being unemployed, he sent me a text saying that we needed time apart and that this was the “ideal” time because I didn’t have a job that I was tied to! I couldn’t believe it, we was deserting me in my time of need and trying to get me to leave our home, when I have no income and nowhere to go. Then soon after that he did an extremely immature thing and blocked me on Facebook, WTF?!
I realized then that this was not normal and I need to get out of this situation for good. He is not the person I fell in love with. I just feel so stuck. I hate having to rely on other people, but I have to because I have no job, no income, I can’t afford my own apartment, I need to try to get out of our lease. It’s a mess…