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I found signing up for an event (spring triathlon, 5k, etc) helps keep me motivated to work out. Otherwise, I tend to lose motivation.
Try Weight Watchers! It's an incredibly supportive community and the diet isn't crazy hard to follow. I did it three years ago and lost sixty pounds. But I also agree that you definitely need to incorporate exercise, so signing up for some classes you might enjoy or an event to train for would probably be some good motivation!
I ditto the weight watchers! Also--get your FI on the bandwagon with you! Chances are if you gained, HE gained, too! And it's SO much easier if you both eat healthier. I find myself getting frustrated really quickly if my husband is like "ugh your salad looks boring" then goes and makes himself chicken tenders. It's not fair!
I LOVE WEIGHTWATCHERS ONLINE!
for like$12 a month you can track all your points, get recipes and talk to other people going through the same things.
I've lost 23 pounds.
I gained about 40 pounds after meeting FI (40 pounds in 4.5 years...yuck). I have also struggled with motivation to loose, but have recently been very happy with my new exercize regimen. I stopped going to my gym about a month ago because it left me feeling totally unmotivated and I never wanted to stay long enough for a decent workout. I purchased hand weights, a kettlebell and 4 circut training/cardio DVDs (Jillian Micheals is awesome). For the past month I have been doing 4-5 workouts a week mixed in with walks and jogs in my neighborhood. I have also been keeping a food journal of everything I eat. I feel so much stronger and more fit then where I was a month ago, and while I have not yet lost weight, my body is firmer and more defined. It makes me feel better about myself and motivated me to work harder!
I also find that I have to think of my weight loss as a healthy living transformation. I am not doing this just for the wedding. I am doing it for myself, so that I can be the healthy person that I want to be. So that I will be a healthy wife and eventually a healthy mother. Think of the long term effects of your lifestyle choices! Thinking towards the future can be a big help for motivation as well :) Good Luck!
I am a size 14 and I still loved gown shopping. I couldnt wait for the weight loss so I basically bought my dress and asked how much it could be altered. I figure if I loss weight I can alter the dress and if I dont I still look amazing in my dress so its not a big deal. My FI loves me the way I am so it doesnt concern me much. I am only worried about all of the guests that have not seen me for 4 years. UGGGG! But either way, I will be happy. Maybe dress shopping will be the motivation that you need. I wouldnt miss out on the fun because of a little extra weight though.
I think you should sign up for a gym with classes. It's dreadful to go to the gym if you don't like working out, but classes are fun (Zumba, aerobics). The people around you keep you motivated all you have to do is show up.
Or buy yourself some new workout clothes! A new workout outfit always makes me want to use it!!
Definitely join something. The gym, weight watchers, get a trainer, whatever apeals to you. I have been getting in shape for my wedding over the last 8 months and started by working with a trainer. I hadn't planned to do it but it has been great to learn how to exercise properly and build lean mucle, and I get to box which has been a great stress reliever! As a result I went from a size 12 to a size 8- yay!
i say embrace the way you are i'm not saying don't lose the weight but start by being happy in the skin you are in.
Then set small goals to work towards... star with small stuff like drinking more water or eating smaller portions parking at the far end of the parking lot at the mall or at the opposite end from the store you intended on going into... these are amall things that can help and then you won't feel like it's a diet thing but more of a life change...
you have some time before you have to buy your dress but i say go look...
Lookt how amazing dressses can look on you now and then say if i lose 5lbs. then i'll look even beter that way u are not so down on yourself... and 5lbs. after that even better and keep doing that until u are where you want to be
i had to learn that myself... i am a street size 18-20 had to get dress size 26 and i feel absolutely amazing in it
me and my fiance started a buddy system at the gym...
He is a big gym rat!! sometimes irriating but he has been working me out so far in two weeks i have lost 5 lbs. its not impossible, just watch what you eat.. even if you dont go to the gym take a walk or jog with friends or your fiance..
i just joined a zumba class and it is oh-so fun! but i definitely understand not wanting to try on a dress until the weight is lost, I had the same issue! i agree with setting small goals though, it helps the motivation to keep things actually achievalbe. Then when you reach a goal, set a new one until you work down to your overall goal!
If you want something free myfitnesspal.com has a great support system if you use it and they have a calorie count of all the food in take and workouts that you do for the day.
I found that the dress was the most motivating for me. Even though it didn't look the best in my size I knew that once I lost a certian amount of weight I would be much happier with the outcome (but alterations were included in the price).
And this place also has an amazing support system too, maybe try joining the weekly post and see if that can motivate you.
YOU CAN DO IT!!!
OMG, I am right there with you. I gained 40 pounds in the 4 years since I met my fiance. Right now, we are BOTH getting up an hour earlier and hitting the gym. My goal is to just lose that 40 pounds in 5 months, even though I really need to lose 60. So far so good, just counting calories (and sodium!) with exercise daily and I've lost 5 pounds in one week!
But I was dreading the dress shopping too. But they make you feel so good and honestly, I never looked prettier, even if I am bigger than I'd like to be. You have lots of time though, so as long as you give yourself about 6 months for dress shopping, you should be ok.
Good luck! You can do it!!
I go to WW meetings, and I really love it. I've lost 50 lbs on the program, and it's the only thing that really works for me.
Thanks for all the tips & words of encouragement. Well, I currently belong to a gym (I have for many years) but can't seem to drag myself in there. I have belonged to Weight Watchers and have lost up to 35 lbs. and kept it off for years at a times & even have brand new workout clothes with tags! So... what's my problem! Ugh! I agree WW is the BEST plan out there. I have decided to jump start my weight loss plan by re-joining Weight Watchers again and I bought the 30 Day Shred ( I heard it's great!). Thanks to all of you for the support. I just need to DO IT! I'll keep you up to date on my progress.
My suggestion is to buy yourself a pedometer and wear it! Usually on my lunch break, I just sit, but now I really want to get to my 10,000+ steps, so I walk! It's such good motivation for me!
I had wanted to loose 20+lbs before even trying on any dresses...I went with my mom one day and honestly what helped me WAS trying on dresses, because I was not fully happy with how my body was looking and it motivated me start working hard!
I have been doing the Montignac Method since September and lost 21kgs (42pounds)! I am so much happier now, as I didn't want to be a fat bride. Went gown shopping in March and have lost another 6kg since then. Montignac is fab, because you can still occasionally eat chocolate, and cheese and wine are also allowed. Love it - will never be fat again now... good Luck! I found some shops were a bit snooty (despite me being a healthy 14 at the time) but I just didn't get my gown there, and FMIL came to my defense - love her so much for that!
I honestly have no advice...All I do is sit around all day studying a bunch of nursing books. :(
but I just wanted to say that I'm right there with you!!! :) We'll figure something out!
I hear ya! Since meeting the fella I promptly put on around 12kg (which is 26 pounds - ewwww) and have been trying to get it off for 5 yrs now! The thing that made me get my arse in gear was the thought of thinking I looked fat in my wedding photos when there was no need to! So I bit the bullet and signed up for personal training. I've been going twice a week for nearly 3 weeks now and it's been great. I didn't want to get a gym membership cos I knew I'd get home from working all day and it would be cold and dark outside and I wouldn't go. However, with someone expecting me I know I have to go. It's also great to have someone that motivates you and keeps you on track - plus he pushes me way harder than I'd ever push myself. While it's painful and I hate it (and him! LOL) at the time I have noticed a difference in my strength and fitness and the weight is slowly peeling off which is nice. Good luck!
I felt exactly the same way!!! I waited and waited to try on dresses till after I lost weight b/c I wanted wedding dress shopping to be a positive experience. Ended up ordering in March and now I'm worried I will be pressed for time trying to get my dress in time for my Sept. wedding. My advice, go ahead and start looking and order the dress in your size now. It can always be sized down! Plus buying the dress was the best weight loss motivator ever!
Ladies... I'm reporting in! Haven't lost any weight although I've been eating healthier. Yay me! I have an appointment at a Bridal Boutique on June 5th! I stopped in today to lurk and I expressed my concerns and they assured me they had plenty of dresses to fit me (about a size 12 street size) so I felt a little better. She gave the same advice some of you lovely Bees have suggested which is order my current size and if I lose the 15-20 lbs. I can take it in.
I was feeling the same way. I know WW works but I got tired (*ahem* Lazy) and stopped tracking points. I still practice alot of what I learned in WW and find it extremely helpful, I measure food, eat 5-6 times a day. I only eat dessert with a 1-3 point value a couple times a week. I load up my plate with veggies. The BIGGEST thing that has helped me so far for wedding weight loss has been to sign up with trainer/class. I go to a bootcamp twice a week for intense workout that includes jump training and weights with bursts of cardio. I feel 100% healthier, i've lost 14 lbs since January and 8 inches all over. I feel guilty if I have to miss and I make up my class. Because it is such a small group the trainer gets to know you well and there is something about having someone waiting for you that makes you get out and get there. I know i'll be questioned later if I do not make it. I took the wedding and the weight I wanted to lose as an opportunity to focus on my health, I will continue after wedding and this has even motivated FI to watch what he eats and he has lost about 14lbs too and he only takes his bike out once a week! Men lose weight much easier grrrr!
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Ladies... I need help getting motivated to lose the 20 PLUS lbs. I've gained since meeting my fiance 4 years ago! When I met him I had lost about 30 lbs. and felt amazing. After keeping off the weight for a couple of years slowly but surely I packed on the pounds. Now that we're planning our wedding I am just thrilled but can't seem to motivate myself to lose the weight and get in shape for the big day. One of my biggest issues is that I can't seem to work up the nerve to gown shop unless I lose some weight. I had gotten myself to a size 10 and now ......... well let's NOT go there! Any words of advice? Any great tips?