Post # 1
Ladies… I need help getting motivated to lose the 20 PLUS lbs. I’ve gained since meeting my fiance 4 years ago! When I met him I had lost about 30 lbs. and felt amazing. After keeping off the weight for a couple of years slowly but surely I packed on the pounds. Now that we’re planning our wedding I am just thrilled but can’t seem to motivate myself to lose the weight and get in shape for the big day. One of my biggest issues is that I can’t seem to work up the nerve to gown shop unless I lose some weight. I had gotten myself to a size 10 and now ……… well let’s NOT go there! Any words of advice? Any great tips?
Post # 3
I found signing up for an event (spring triathlon, 5k, etc) helps keep me motivated to work out. Otherwise, I tend to lose motivation.
Post # 4
Try Weight Watchers! It’s an incredibly supportive community and the diet isn’t crazy hard to follow. I did it three years ago and lost sixty pounds. But I also agree that you definitely need to incorporate exercise, so signing up for some classes you might enjoy or an event to train for would probably be some good motivation!
Post # 5
I ditto the weight watchers! Also–get your FI on the bandwagon with you! Chances are if you gained, HE gained, too! And it’s SO much easier if you both eat healthier. I find myself getting frustrated really quickly if my husband is like “ugh your salad looks boring” then goes and makes himself chicken tenders. It’s not fair!
Post # 6
I LOVE WEIGHTWATCHERS ONLINE!
for like$12 a month you can track all your points, get recipes and talk to other people going through the same things.
I’ve lost 23 pounds.
Post # 7
I gained about 40 pounds after meeting FI (40 pounds in 4.5 years…yuck). I have also struggled with motivation to loose, but have recently been very happy with my new exercize regimen. I stopped going to my gym about a month ago because it left me feeling totally unmotivated and I never wanted to stay long enough for a decent workout. I purchased hand weights, a kettlebell and 4 circut training/cardio DVDs (Jillian Micheals is awesome). For the past month I have been doing 4-5 workouts a week mixed in with walks and jogs in my neighborhood. I have also been keeping a food journal of everything I eat. I feel so much stronger and more fit then where I was a month ago, and while I have not yet lost weight, my body is firmer and more defined. It makes me feel better about myself and motivated me to work harder!
I also find that I have to think of my weight loss as a healthy living transformation. I am not doing this just for the wedding. I am doing it for myself, so that I can be the healthy person that I want to be. So that I will be a healthy wife and eventually a healthy mother. Think of the long term effects of your lifestyle choices! Thinking towards the future can be a big help for motivation as well 🙂 Good Luck!
Post # 8
I am a size 14 and I still loved gown shopping. I couldnt wait for the weight loss so I basically bought my dress and asked how much it could be altered. I figure if I loss weight I can alter the dress and if I dont I still look amazing in my dress so its not a big deal. My FI loves me the way I am so it doesnt concern me much. I am only worried about all of the guests that have not seen me for 4 years. UGGGG! But either way, I will be happy. Maybe dress shopping will be the motivation that you need. I wouldnt miss out on the fun because of a little extra weight though.
Post # 9
I think you should sign up for a gym with classes. It’s dreadful to go to the gym if you don’t like working out, but classes are fun (Zumba, aerobics). The people around you keep you motivated all you have to do is show up.
Or buy yourself some new workout clothes! A new workout outfit always makes me want to use it!!
Post # 10
Definitely join something. The gym, weight watchers, get a trainer, whatever apeals to you. I have been getting in shape for my wedding over the last 8 months and started by working with a trainer. I hadn’t planned to do it but it has been great to learn how to exercise properly and build lean mucle, and I get to box which has been a great stress reliever! As a result I went from a size 12 to a size 8- yay!
Post # 11
i say embrace the way you are i’m not saying don’t lose the weight but start by being happy in the skin you are in.
Then set small goals to work towards… star with small stuff like drinking more water or eating smaller portions parking at the far end of the parking lot at the mall or at the opposite end from the store you intended on going into… these are amall things that can help and then you won’t feel like it’s a diet thing but more of a life change…
you have some time before you have to buy your dress but i say go look…
Lookt how amazing dressses can look on you now and then say if i lose 5lbs. then i’ll look even beter that way u are not so down on yourself… and 5lbs. after that even better and keep doing that until u are where you want to be
i had to learn that myself… i am a street size 18-20 had to get dress size 26 and i feel absolutely amazing in it
Post # 12
me and my fiance started a buddy system at the gym…
He is a big gym rat!! sometimes irriating but he has been working me out so far in two weeks i have lost 5 lbs. its not impossible, just watch what you eat.. even if you dont go to the gym take a walk or jog with friends or your fiance..
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu
i just joined a zumba class and it is oh-so fun! but i definitely understand not wanting to try on a dress until the weight is lost, I had the same issue! i agree with setting small goals though, it helps the motivation to keep things actually achievalbe. Then when you reach a goal, set a new one until you work down to your overall goal!
Post # 14
If you want something free myfitnesspal.com has a great support system if you use it and they have a calorie count of all the food in take and workouts that you do for the day.
I found that the dress was the most motivating for me. Even though it didn’t look the best in my size I knew that once I lost a certian amount of weight I would be much happier with the outcome (but alterations were included in the price).
And this place also has an amazing support system too, maybe try joining the weekly post and see if that can motivate you.
YOU CAN DO IT!!!
Post # 15
OMG, I am right there with you. I gained 40 pounds in the 4 years since I met my fiance. Right now, we are BOTH getting up an hour earlier and hitting the gym. My goal is to just lose that 40 pounds in 5 months, even though I really need to lose 60. So far so good, just counting calories (and sodium!) with exercise daily and I’ve lost 5 pounds in one week!
But I was dreading the dress shopping too. But they make you feel so good and honestly, I never looked prettier, even if I am bigger than I’d like to be. You have lots of time though, so as long as you give yourself about 6 months for dress shopping, you should be ok.
Good luck! You can do it!!
Post # 16
I go to WW meetings, and I really love it. I’ve lost 50 lbs on the program, and it’s the only thing that really works for me.