(Closed) NEED to print a seating chart but some +1s are still unknown

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How should I handle this?
    Get the printing process started, just listing the friend/family's name only : (3 votes)
    17 %
    Get the printing process started, listing the friend/fam's name AND 'guest' or 'party' or '(2)' : (11 votes)
    61 %
    Hold off printing a little longer : (2 votes)
    11 %
    Other (please list) : (0 votes)
    Reeeelax, deep breaths.. I know it's crunch time but you're overthinking this. : (2 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    3574 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I had this same issue and I had to wait until 3 days before the wedding to finish the seating.  I think you should wait to use the guest’s name.

    Post # 5
    722 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I agree with PP, if you want to have their name on a place card rather than “so & so + guest” than wait to get their exact name. If there’s only a few, it won’t be too bad to write the last few up a few days before the wedding

    Post # 6
    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I had 1 guest who didn’t know who she was bringing until the day before the wedding.  I told her I’d be printing just her name – no “& Guest” – on the seating chart but that there would an extra chair at the table for her guest.  It really removed a lot of the hassle.  And I don’t think it’s rude.  If you haven’t lined up a date by a week out, you’re clearly just bringing a random friend or relative, so what’s the big deal if their name isn’t on the chart?

    Post # 7
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @sportsgal31:  Totally agree.  I’d just leave them off, and give them a heads up one on one so you can get started and not mess up your pretty chart with “and guests”.  If they don’t know who they’re bringing, their dates probably don’t know either, so you can’t really expect to have your name all printed when you only decided to come a few days in advance.

    I’d send one more email asking for the names by X date, and if they can’t tell you, then advise them they won’t be listed, but their seat will be with them.

    Post # 8
    16216 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I got the names for as many +1s as I could before printing our escort cards, but with a few people who never supplied their guests’ names, I ended up just writing “and Guest.” I agree that I prefer names over “and Guest,” but my thought is that if they’re not concerned about getting you the guests’ names, they likely won’t be offended by seeing “and Guest.”

    In other words, don’t let this totally throw you off in preparing for your wedding. 🙂

    Post # 10
    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I don’t think its a bad thing to have ‘and guest’ in this situation. Obviously the guests these people are bringing are not SOs. If they were, they would have written their name on the RSVP. A random guest/date wouldn’t be annoyed that they are ‘and guest’ since they probably didn’t know they were invited until very close to the wedding.


    On the other hand, a wedding we went to last year listed me as ‘and guest’ to my then boyfriend. We had already been dating for over two years and I had met the groom multipule times. But it was an online RSVP with no room to put my name. That was a bit demeaning.

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