Post # 1
Okay so after feeling frustrated by not having a proposal at Christmas and then SO saying ‘trust me’ when I told him I was disappointed I decided I was sick of guessing and needed to have a chat.
I told him that I know neither of us were interested in marriage when we first got together, but now I feel very differently & I wanted to know if he did too. I made it clear that no marriage would not mean the end of our relationship (we have two beautiful children together and we have definitely shown that we are committed to each other and our family). He said he feels the same & would actually love to marry me! He also said he feels a proposal should be a surprise so I need to leave it with him! I am a control freak and I think he’s given away more than he wanted already (I think he wanted me to be shocked he was asking) but he agreed that we both need to communicate what we want out of the relationship so he is glad I spoke to him. So now I need to shut up and wait….it’s so hard!!!
Post # 3
It’s TOO HARD, especially when you want to know something, anything!!
Post # 4
I feel your pain, I’m in a similar situation- some guys just really want that element of surprise and when you are Type-A and like knowing what will hapen, it makes it SO hard!!! Best of luck to you for your SIU and eventual proposal 🙂
Post # 5
It’s crazy this is my situation exactly. He was like ‘I know you want the date and time and exact location but that’s not happening. You can’t control this.’ lol I’m very controlling.
Post # 6
Ok well about two hours into my SIU pact we were relaxing on the couch watching TV & SO was on the iPad. He turned the screen to me and said “I think I will get something like this”…he was looking at mens wedding rings!! I almost burst!!
Post # 7
@Vic_10_12: Haha, I’m sure you will look lovely with a 1 cm band size 11 chunky titanium engagement ring. I absolutely would NOT want my proposal to be a complete surprise – deciding to get married is a group decision, though the actual proposal activity could be a surprise.
Post # 8
I’m the same way. I like to know everything. Hopefully that proposal will come soon!