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Does anyone know any BC that won't make you loose interest in sex. I am never in the mood and before I started taking BC, I couldn't wait. I am on Loestrin, and I've heard other people say it caused the same problems to them.
I have a call out the doc and i'm waiting to hear back, but in the mean time, any recommendations.
I don't really want to go on a pill where you don't get your period at all, so a normal every month recommendation is good. Thanks
Maybe I'm totally forgetting.... but weren't you one of the ones who was waiting for marriage? So did you have sex much before the pill vs. after... seems like if you have only been doing it for a month you might not have enough data to know what is "normal" for you?
I did wait, but before we were married, I still got worked up, now nothing. I know its not normal for me.
I had the same problem with Yaz, so I would avoid it. I am currently on Sprintec (generic Ortho Cyclen) and the no sex drive problem is definitely not as bad.
You might have to try different pills in order to find something that works for you. They all have different effects on different people.
Hm... I mean I just think that your drive totally changes before vs. after sex. Especially because you two waited... it could be that you're still getting used to things and the nerves and such are messing with your desire.
Now, if you're SURE its a hormonal thing and not just a getting used to things thing... I would talk to your gyno and just try some different things. I use regular old ortho and it works for me but it has had bad side effects for some of my friends. Some friends use loestrin and that didn't work for me. I think its trial and error for your particular chemistry.
were you on the pill before you were married? it ocould still be the stresses of living with your husband now. or the reality of what sex is and that it's not always what you see in the movies... you'll get the hang of things so to speak. I would give your bc another couple of months to make sure it's what you need. there are also non-hormonal options...
EVERY birth control I've been on kills my sex drive. I don't know that any exist that don't kill your sex drive.
Maybe the novelty is wearing off a little now that you can act on it and have sex? Stress? Anything like that could be a factor.
Even if you don't have a sex drive, once you get started, it kicks back in. It's just a matter of getting over the lack of desire.
It kinda sucks, but that's the downside of BC.
I know a lot of doctors make you stay on the pill for a few months, because it takes that long for your body to get used to it. But, I understand why you want to change ASAP being a newlywed and all ;-) (Congrats, btw!). Most BC affects everyone different, and you will just have to keep trying different kinds till you find one that works well for you. I'm on my fourth different kind of BC and I am still looking for one that I really like, so it's pretty much trial and error.
Thanks everyone, I am gonna just have to try other things.
It makes me think it's the pill because for the first 2 months I had horrible mood swings, I felt crazy, but I stuck it out, probably shouldn't have, but now they have stopped and i'm just apathetic most of the time, which is transferring over to being with my husband.
I just needed a little support, you guys are always so awesome.
I have the same problem with Yaz & it was worse when I was on the patch (it made me crazy but oh how I loved the patch). I want to talk about it with my Dr. but I'm in the middle of switching cuz I hate mine.
I'm curious to see what your doc recommends as far as a BC that doesn't kill the sex drive! Cuz i've been on SO many of them and they all have that affect.
I used to get nauseus on the pill for mine but after about 4 months I got used to it.
I had a terrible time with Yaz and Sprintec (generic Ortho Tricyclen). As for other BC pills, I had a similar issue to what you said you are experiencing. I personally find that the Ortho Evra patch is good - it's a steady transdermal type of bc that allows your body to keep the same level of hormone in your blood as opposed to pills that create hormonal spikes soon after you take them (they are both as effective, I just think the patch works better for me). Also, for anybody who has problems with nausea when you take bc pills - the patch doesn't have that effect as often because it's transdermal (on the skin) as opposed to something that you ingest. Another nice thing is you only have to do it once a week and so it's harder to forget to do it :)
Bella
I was on Loestrin, and like ejs said, you just have to get past the "not in the mood" part and give it a try and things get going once you do. However, when I switched to Yaz, nothing and I mean NOTHING could get my going. You'll have to experiment if you don't like it and nobody can really give you a good recomendation since it's different for everyone. I tried Loestrin and Yaz and just gave up on BC pills and we just use condoms now. Hubby doesn't mind, I don't mind (for now. we'll see when things get "regular" again) so, who knows. Talk to your doc, it's about the only thing to do.
@ Bella Luna I used to LOVE the patch - it was the easiest thing on the planet to use. And can I please ask WHY they don't make Band-Aids out of that stuff? That sucker NEVER came off. My doc told me that it has the highest level of hormones on the market so I stopped it. It made me really moody & totally crazy. I will admit though - if we're talking about sex drive, that with the patch - that week that I took it off… oh man FI loved that week. LOL
I'm on Yasmin and never had a problem.
But I DO agree with CorgiTales that this could just be you adjusting to having a sexual relationship. I used to get way more "excited" about stuff back before I lost my virginity/when I was younger. Things definitely change a bit after you take that plunge.
Are you guys that are sensitive to BC sensitive to other medicine?
I've never been on BC because well for me most medicine does the complete opposite of what it's supposed to do. Sleepy medicines make my heart race, tylenol makes me nauseous, I've got a few I can take with normal results (Ibprofen, dimatapp, and sudafed). And I know BC is different than most medicines but was just curious to know if those that were sensitive to BC were also sensitive to other things.
Not sure what to tell you. I agree that it seems a bit whack and shouldn't really be about sex being new (though of course there can be hangups with that as well). We've always been fine without BC but then again we're OK if a kid comes along.
Thanks, ya it's just getting a little upsetting, don't really get in the mood even when we're doing stuff so I don't know, I don't like feeling this way though.
I just got married a week before you. I also am experiencing a decreased libido. I talked to my doctor about it at my appt. and she said that because of the hormones in the pill, you'll always feel like that. It affects some women more than others. There's no solution she said, b/c all BC is going to affect your hormones. We could try the charting method but I decided to stick with the pill for now. We aren't ready for an oops! I have been on this same pill for over a year (it's a monophasic, and I take 4 packs in a row w/no placebos, then I take one week of placebos per my doctor's instructions, so I get my period every three months - you can do this with any monophasic pill). I have always felt a decrease in my sex drive when I am on the pill. My husband is fine with our intimacy so that's why I am continuing with the pill, for another year or so. Then I will re-evaluate. I am always able to have fun! It just takes a little longer than I remember (from before I was on the pill) and I rarely initiate. HTH.
@British: Don't sweat it so much. Definitely check with your doctor if you feel so inclined, but also keep in mind that you've only been having sex for one month of your whole life. Things are going to be hard to get used to at first and your desire might not be what you thought it would be. Also, with some people, it takes a bit to "click" with each other in that way.
I feel like I (and EJS LoL) say this on all the sex-related posts, but please feel free to PM me ;o) I lived with 10 girls for three years and I've heard it all.
@ bvig - I am. I can't take vicodin or anything even related to it at all. Also I'm allergic to some antibiotics. And there are certain over the counter pain meds that do nothing for me. Advil/Ibuprofen works, Tylenol, Alieve, Motrin IB, none of those things relieves any pain. I have bad needs and was prescribed an anti-inflammatory for it, which did nothing (can't remember what it's called). So I feel your pain.... haha....
I have to agree with those who said you'll have this problem with almost every pill. Every person is different but I've been on different BC and they all have been the same as far as sex drive. It's low & of course high when I'm on my period (go figure). I'm also looking into changing my BC. However; mine is because of Mood Swings. Anyone have any suggestions for lower mood swing pills??
Oh yeah prednisone makes me break out in hives....doesn't stop people from trying to prescribe it though.
@lacy, i don't really have any mood swings, well nothing compared to being bc free... haha no sex drive no mood swings i'm turning into a freakin robot!
Ya I was a crazy lady when I got my period every month.
Than when i first started BC for the first 2-3 months it was horrible, but now it's regulated and I don't rage anymore.
Yaz is supposed to be good for crazy mood swings. It's the only way I'd recommend Yaz (but I'm not a Dr, so don't take my recomendations seriously lol). Does nada in the sex-wanting department though. I know birth control is supposed to prevent pregnancy and all, but not THAT way, imo lol
Some pills have more impact on libido than others. I was on Loestrin for awhile and I had a LOT of problems with it (or just one really really big problem!). It's actually supposed to be one of the better ones, though. Talk to your doctor and you might be able to get one that has a better balance of hormones, and you might experience less difficulty that way. But almost any hormones that you take will have some impact, unfortunately.
Here's an interesting forum on nuvaring vs BC
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bc-question-pill-or-nuvaring
Interesting that so many of you loved the patch-- I hated it!!! It would never stay stuck. Starting around day 4 it would start to come loose and it was so hard to keep in on for a full 7 days. Plus when it would come off I'd have an icky sticky residue.
In all honesty I was on hormonal brith control for about 5 years. The two I tried killed my sex drive and eventually caused me further health problems. I completely off the stuff last February and now we only use condoms.
I will never go back. When deciding to go off hormonal BC I read a lot of articles that solidified my decision. I just don't think that the stuff is healthy.
If you are not planning on having kids for awhile I would consider an IUD.
Good luck!
@Corgi: I had the same problem with the patch! It always moved around and the corners started to come up so I was afraid that I wasn't getting any protection. And the residue lasted longer than the next week in a different spot!
I was on Mircette and then its generic, Kariva, for about 9 years (before switching to NFP), and loved it--I never had any trouble with my sex drive, or any other side effects.
I too hated the patch the one time I tried to switch--it made me HORRIBLY nauseous, gathered icky-looking lint around the edges of the patch, and refused to stick the whole week. I switched back very quickly.
I've tried so many different brands of BC simply because I've had one problem or another on them. Currently on Yaz and it's killed my sex drive. I was put on it for my skin, but I'm really wanting to get off of it starting at the beginning of the year. Was also on Ortho-Tri Cyclen Lo and Ortho Tri Cyclen and Yasmin, also a generic that I can't remember the name of right now. I think after this year I'm giving up on hormonal BC and sticking with condoms. They're worth me not dealing with health problems all the time. Ugh.
I'm sorry to hear you're having this problem! I'm in the same boat, so I definitely empathize. I agree with everyone else about just trial and error with pills but also, talk to your hubby about it. I'm on Yasmin and it's killed my sex drive and my ability to get wet enough to enjoy anything. SO and I talked about it and experimented with different lubes and stuff (sorry if this is TMI) but experimenting with new stuff helped me alot... So maybe just switch things up a little could help you until you can get your pill switched. It can be as simple as making a playlist of you and your husband's favorite love songs to listen to during.
BC Pills killed my sex drive, so we're on condoms and we're both much happier. The pill is not the only option. It did weird things to my body chemistry too.
I find that the side effects of the pill change over time. I've been on the pill for about 7 years and over that time, I've had Ortho Tri Cyclen (for like 3 years), Ortho Low, Yaz and most recently the Neuva ring. I guess I had the least problem with the Ortho tricyclen but my doctor took me off of it due to its high dose of hormones and my eventual side effects. For me, the begining months were always fine but over time the side effects kicked in. I'm currently on the condom only method and it makes me nervous so I need to make a Dr. appointment. I don't have a reccomendation at this time but a year ago I was loving the ring, it was easy and painless.
I'm on Sprintec and have been for about two years and for the past 3 or 4 months, I have no libido. I was thinking that perhaps it was another medicine but perhaps I'll talk to my GYN about switching and shaking things up. I really want to get that charge and excitement that I used to get and of course, the fact that I'm not getting charged doesn't help the fiance get excited either. 
Over the years I've tried Ortho, Yasmin, Depo-Provera, the Patch & NuvaRing. I've NEVER found a hormonal birth control that didn't give me this problem. I'm currently on Yasmin and that seems to be the best so far. I think I'm actually going to try an IUD soon, since I can get one that's non-hormonal. I think that may only be an option for those of us who already have kids, though. I know for Mirena, you have to have a child first. Not sure why that's the case.
Loestrin killed it for me, definitely. Plus it made me a total beotch to people about the smallest things. I'm also found that what I eat affects my energy. I ate a lot of empty sugars, but when I started eating better, I felt better and had more energy. Hope you find what you're looking for! :)
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