- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
So, FI and I have decided to can the “big” 80-100 person wedding we were going to have next spring for a more simple, intimate wedding late this summer. We have talked about renting a house on the beach, but so far, I’ve had a hard time finding a private home that would allow a wedding, even though the maximum amount of people we were thinking was 40. Any way, I found out that we can have our reception on a boat cruise for a wonderufl price, however, we can only have 34 people max and right now, our list is at 38. This list includes my parents, his parents, my aunts & uncles, my first cousins, and a handful of close friends… Since his family is from the other side of the country, we will have a reception there sometime afterwards.
Since I consider all of the people who are on this list to be essential, including the friends who have made it, I am nervous about cutting people out… I am thinking about asking my cousins not to bring dates or possibly thinking about not inviting them altogether. I know that it could be hurtful, especially to one of them who I was closer to when we were teenagers, but in all honesty, I am not very close with any of them anymore and if they weren’t family, would never consider inviting them. Is there a way to explain in a way that would be least hurtful?