Post # 1
Just need a quick vent.
Basically, FI and I both entered new positions in our careers in September. We are beyond stressed and overworked. I am working 10-12 hour days 5 days a week and he is working 6-7 9-10 hour shifts a week. Might I mention neither of us make even close to a salary that reflects these hours.
When we do have off it is typically not at the same time or we have 1000000 commitments we have to deal with. We are both honestly stretched so thin, we have no time to do anything enjoyable. I am trying to navigate my job and plan my wedding at the same time.
Our friends have even told us they can see how stressed and exhausted we are. Yet, people just dont stop! Including our parents asking when we can help with this or when we can do that.
I am not looking for anyone to tell me life gets hard at times (trust us we know, we work for everything we have), or give me some life advice. I simply just needed somewhere to let out a big AHHHHHHHH!!!! FI and I don’t like to burden family and friends with our life problems but my gosh, we just need a break!!!
Anyone else need to vent! Have at it!
Post # 3
I have been so stressed out lately, that I just don’t do ANYTHING. I am in graduate school for mental health counseling and for a class they had us take an anxiety screening… the normal score is 40. I was at 151. I have so much work to do that I get overwhelmed and just don’t do it, which is bad because it causes more stress.
I am also in the middle of swiching jobs, my current boss is a passive agressive POS that even though i gave her a months notice she keeps giveing me guilt trips and calling me a “quitter”, and she changed my scheduel around so that i have the work week from hell my last week.
I also haven’t seen my FI in about a month even though we live 15 mins from each other, and I just realised that I can’t remember if I have feed my ferret in the last 3 days or not.
I just want like.. 8 hrs of uninturrpted sleep… that might make things better.
Post # 4
I am so sorry 🙁 That must be tough juggling all that!
I am so stressed and worried about the future. Basically right now all I can do is sit at home and wait around until my psychiatrist and I find a dosage of medication that works. I have to wait around until I am stable enough to go back to university and get a job. Until then I can’t even think about moving out with FI, we simply can’t afford all the bills (including all my crazy medical bills) on his current salary. He couldn’t even move out on his own with his current salary. Until we know of a definite time we will be able to move out, or until we move out we won’t be able to start booking things and set an official date for the wedding, as we want to live together for a few months first. I am just so frustrated, I hate only being able to cope with sitting at home, only going out occasionally. I hate that my illness makes the smallest things stressful to me. I am even anxious and stressed out over helping my aunt unpack at her new place on Friday.
Post # 5
@MarieeToBee: We are moving in one week, or rather I am doing most of the moving. It wasn’t until this last weekend that my FI finally started moving all his stuff (re: crap out). We’re moving into his place and getting a storage unit while we save for a house. I still have overwhelming anxiety that I am losing all my space and stuff. I’m doing most of the moving because (in theory) I am not working.
Not working means several hours of job hunting a day plus whatever odd jobs I cam pick up. I am a giant stressball.
What makes it worse is that my FI and my parent’s are like, just concentrate on moving don’t worry about job hunting and trying to make money right now. WTF? How exactly am I supposed to pay my bills while I’m moving and job hunting? (the answer is mroe stress and I am stretched beyond thin right now. Since we’ve been moving for the past month any romance or sex has been out of the question. Planning our wedding is about the furtherest thing from my mind, not only do I not have the time, but I also don’t have the money.
The next person who tells me to chill and not stress will get killed! How can I not stress out?
Post # 6
@renwoman: thank you! I hate when people tell me to calm down it will all work out. Its hard sometimes because I feel like the people who say that are the ones who have been handed everything in life and don’t seem to know what real stress is.
Post # 7
My wedding is in less than 2 weeks. I was SUPPOSED to write an exam for work 2 weeks ago but the people scheduling it (not at my job, at the office where I have to write the exam) can’t get their act together and process the frigging paperwork on time, so it kept getting pushed back and pushed back. So then they wanted me to write on Nov 12, 3 days after my wedding. Um no. My work fortunately said it would be fine for me to delay it until the 19th. Meanwhile I’ve been studying for months now and was ready to write a month ago. Fortunately there was a last minute cancellation and I can get in tomorrow, not ideal, but at this point I just want to get it over with. If I fail though, there’s a small chance I could lose my job if I fail.
And on top of it all, I’m getting a cold. I’m terrified that I’ll get that nasty red dried out nose look and be like that on the day of the wedding. I’m doped up to my eyeballs on sinus meds and vitamin C. Well maybe that’s an exageration, and I won’t be taking sinus meds tomorrow. At least not until the exam is done…