Need to vent.

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Breath. Remeber that school comes first before wedding plannihg (in my opinon anywat) also remeber it’s okay to ask for help planning the wedding. Ask mom sis fmil fsil friends aunt cousins the list goes on. Just ask them To do things that will help you but remeber to give detail instructions if you want it done a certian way. Good luck and hope all goes well

Post # 4
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439 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Don’t be afraid to ask for help! You could also consider a little bit of a longer engagement and start planning after you’re done with your last year of school. I got engaged right before I had to study for and take the bar exam, so I told my FI that I definitely wasn’t going to plan just yet. He was fine with that and we waited! If waiting is not an option, just get help from your support system and put off some things until the wedding draws closer. School comes first; don’t stress!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I was there, I know the stress you speak of – I graduated in 2011 with a BS in Biology.  4 months before graduating and the DAY I began my lab-intensive research (capstone/thesis project) my ex broke up with me – stress sucks in academic environments.

You just have to work hard and push through it.  You can do it.  Just think of all you’ve accomplished; 3 years in the sciences is not an easy task (Anat&Physio, Organic Chem, Physics… aw hell nooo).  

Let yourself cry.  Accomplish as much as you can on any given day (which on one day may be absolutely nothing… and that’s ok!).  Seriously, breathe.  I miss college – cherish it 🙂

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 1969

moonpride:  Oh girl I completely understand! I have terrible anxiety issues and I am in school as well. The differnce for me is that I am in school for event planning so I enjoy it. I have found that it’s harder to enjoy if you don’t love event planning. My advice: relax. Take it one day at a time. And my biggest advice would be to sign up for something like the knot that has a timeline of when things should be done by so that you have clear goals and you don’t feel all over the place. Just breathe…it will all come together.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I can definitely relate. I am currently in the process of getting my master’s degree in clinical psychology, working two part time jobs, and my wedding is in 3 months!

One of the best things I have done to help curb my anxiety was to make a To Do list for every month. WeddingBee and Wedding Wire are great resources to figure out what you should get done when. Use those to figure out your own wedding timeline. Right now I only have a free day on Saturdays, so at the beginning of every month I look at that month’s to do list and assign 1 or 2 items to each Saturday. This also means I have 0 days off, but checking an item off my to do list every week makes me feel so much calmer and productive.

Have your fiance be responsible for parts of the planning/contacting vendors, etc. If you need to, recruit friends and family to help you, even just by going with you and helping you make choices. Making final decisions can be mentally draining and make you feel like you have more to do than you actually do – have someone help you, send a text to all your close family and friends and have them vote for things you can’t decide on.

Honestly, try to have fun with it even though its stressful. See wedding planning as a much needed study/school break. Don’t be bogged down by what you haven’t done yet – focus on all the wonderful things you’ve already planned and how far youve come – that will give oyu the energy to keep going!

Good luck!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

moonpride: I understand intense academic environments “where fun goes to die” 

to manage stress, I highly recommend intense cardio every morning (like the kind where you want to throw up & feel floaty after bc endorphines!) for 30 min & gentle yoga + mediation for 20 min at night. That or mood stabilizers when it’s really really overwhelming. 

Offload as much as possible — embrace the meal plan if you’re on it, if not, frozen prepped veggies are your friend. Blender soups and smoothies with protein powder are your friends. 

Can you offload wedding planning to your mom or a professional planner? I know it’s more $$ but you’re investing so much in your education, you don’t want to shortchange yourself. 

Or push back your date. That’s ok too. Just some ideas on how to be less overwhelmed!

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